How do you know you have fallen in love ...

And not just infatuated with the person?

I've never fallen "in love" with someone...what does it look like...feel like...etc. (mature adult "in love") I'm 29.

Thanks,

Dub

Basically, you cannot stop thinking about them and you just have this feeling! I know that sounds like a thing a mother would say. But, I knew I was in love when I realized I had NEVER felt that way about anyone else.

The simplist way to know for sure......

Ask yourself are you willing to wipe thier ***. THat is true love. To the cynical ones out there it may sound a bit odd and yet I would not do that for someone I didn't care deeply about; would you?

Otherwise, if you don't have that special someone already in your life than it is like Spazkatt said...............You can't stop thinking about them.

Being in love probably varies from person to person. WHen I am in love, I want to make my other half feel special. Love also brings a feeling of protection. Wanting to protect. And then there is that cheshire smile that won't go away. That glow you get as if you jsut won the lottery.

Feeling you can't spend enough time together. Love is a feeling that tranforms you inside.

With infatuation, it fades. It doesn't feel right. Doesn't click. SOmething is off....Love it is on.......you will know........

I am in love...........ahhh..........these last couple days I cant' think of anything else. I think of our future.....Career change so I can take care of us.........although he has a good job I want to pave the way for us.........that wasn't important to me before......being love is finding yourself..............

Love is when you're on the toilet, making a really stinky one and your partner sits on the ledge of the tub talking to you like any other normal conversation and you don't feel wierd about it!

HOpe I didn't upset too many people...but I've experienced it.

"Falling in love" is a rush of emotions and hormones. Loving someone is a life-long commitment, an act of will, a choice.

Just make sure that the person you're "in love" with fits your needs and lifestyle. YOU CAN'T (and shouldn't try) CHANGE THEM! If their idiocincrazies are in endearing now, make sure they won't drive you to drink in the future. They are easy to overlook when you're "in love."

Good luck!

oh and I forgot it's when you love them despite thier faults! Like when you're fighting and all you can think is he's so damn cute when he's mad!

UMMMM, I must keep that in mind the next time I meet a gentleman and sparks begin to fly. Would I be able to wipe their a__. Yes I will definitely conjure up that image in my mind.

Wow, how special. I have a niece who is always asking me questions. Now I'll be prepared if the love question comes up. Thanks!! This site sure is getting classier by the minute.

Have a nice day.

I TOTALLY AGREE DOTTIE! I AM NEVER CLEANING NO MAN'S ARSE NO MATTER HOW HOT OR RICH HE IS! THAT'S JUST WRONG!

What if you've been happily married for say... 40 yrs and for some reason he is incapacitated?? You'd let him lay in his own crap?? I sure wouldn't!

Wow, I never expected love to revolve so much around defecation

I know I love my wife, but I don't think I could explain how I know. It's just one of those things that defies an easy explanation, I guess.

i remeber falling in love. When the person was near me i felt light and alive. I felt like the world was THE best place to be in. I wanted to share all i had and wanted nothing back in retun except their comapny. I would have lay down and died for them.

Oh and I would have wiped their arse!!!!!!!

atg

After reading this thread I felt I would like to add something. About 3 months ago when I had my open heart surgery, a man I met a few months prior to surgery, held my hand while I was on the ventilator. I told this man , Bruce is his name, if i felt pain on the ventilator I would squeeze his hand. I did feel pain and I squeezed his hand and he got the nurse to give me pain killers right away. As I looked up, he wiped my tears, and I saw him crying. This man works in the medical field and he would wipe my as... if needed. We have only known each other for a short while. He doesn't say that he loves me, but by his actions he sure does care. When we go to a movies , I swear he is holding my hand and taking my pulse. He comes into the house holding a blood pressure cuff and asking me how is your BP today? He can work any where in Mesa, but he choses to do his EMT work at a near by station just to keep an eye on me. I asked him if he would go to the hospital again with me and hold my hand, during my second open heart, with tears in his eyes, he smiled an said sure I will be right there for you.

Just had to tell my story. Yes, love can be expressed in a lot different ways, but their actions is what does count the most.

Leslie

I can't say I agree with the, um, toilet "proof", but I have to say that most of the other reasons listed sound more like infatuation to me than love.

Leslie's answer was a beautiful. I think she really summed it up well. I love my husband dearly and passionately, but I don't think about him a million times a day anymore, and when we're mad, I don't think about how cute he is. But I would lay my life on the line for him and what makes me want to is that I know that he would do the same for me.

I think being "in love" is a form of insanity.
Choosing to love and commit to someone longterm is a different matter.
Seeker

Yes I agree, if you wont wipe their butt, it's mostly likely not love.

Seriously though, it is a feeling you have in your heart. A real feeling. Hard to explain. Just knowing you would do anything in the world for the one you love.

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I know you said it's hard to explain, so I'm not grilling you on this

I just think it's much more than doing anything in the world for them. Infatuation makes you feel that way, too. I think it's more about knowing that you can rely upon the partnership.

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Leslie's answer was beautiful.

The thing about love is there are different types and degrees. I have loved and still continue to love a lot of different people.

It's about admiring them in the strengths and understanding their weaknesses. It means compromise and understanding. With infatuation there is the idea that the person is untouchable and without fault. Love is aknowledging them and overlooking them. Infatuation is not having to compromise because you just want to please, not having your own mind. Love is being your own person and allowing the other person to do the same. Love is something that grows each day, always changing. Love is sticking with that person no matter what. Infatuation is giving up when the other person doesn't meet our expectations. With love, we set those expectations together. Love is taking risks. Of letting someone be nice to us or say a kind word or do a nice gesture. Infatuation is holding back from who we really are and living soley for that one person with no regard to self respect. Infatuation is wonderful, Love is hard.

Well said

Dear vulgerlove,

Very nicely said. When you said love can see faults, that was very true. infactuation doesn't always see faults in the person. No one is perfect in this life. I like what you said in your post.

Leslie

Thank you, I put my heart into that reply......

Well I have fallen in love and so I am walking on sunshine.....it helps to be newly in love when replying to this thread.......love is hard....it's being patient and waiting.......oh just a few more days..........