he is cheating on his g/f for me..

lol i dont know his address...

You can get it from him without meeting him in person. I am just trying to give you advice. No one can tell you what to do or stop you from the inevitable. If you are so wrapped up in him that you're going to see him anyways then there isn't anything we can do and you shouldn't make excuses to yourself just to feel better about it. Plus, if he hasn't asked for the comb apparently it isn't TOO important to him.

lol he does ask for the comb actually :L each time he talks to me :L i do give it back but i usually take it again for fun. my friend was shocked when she first seen i had it, according to her, he doesnt let anyone touch his comb. chances are i will meet up with him again.. there is no point denying that, but im not using the comb as an excuse, i dont think so, now im confusing myself lol

You're at that stage where no one can help you but yourself, I am sorry.

To add, I think you are wanting someone to say "sure it's okay to go see him to give him his comb back" and to make it right to yourself. I don't think this is about the comb at all, as badly as you may want it to be.

If you simply must return this item of his in person, then arrange to meet in a neutral location (not your place or his) and bring a friend with you if you can. Though I agree with Emotionally Dead that it sounds more like you're creating an excuse (intentionally or not) just to see him. I'd advise just getting his address and mailing it to him, but don't take the conversation any further than that. This guy is not good for you at all.

Seeing him in person would only add to your confusion and emotional turmoil. It wouldn't be healthy. Mail it to him.

I know I was meant to stay away, but it seems I was proven wrong.. Um he called me, and he has never called me before... And he told me he broke up with his girlfriend. So now im kinda lost :S but I guess this is a good thing?

Hmmm, well, first you have to decide if he's telling you the truth. I'm sorry it sounds harsh, but he's obviously no stranger to lying to get what he wants. He stayed in that relationship for a long time while reassuring you that he was going to end it. Is there another way you can verify the truth of this? But that just brings up the issue everyone has been talking about. He is not very trustworthy. Not to sound cliche, but whether or not he might do the same thing to you is a valid concern. If you decided to date him, trust would be an issue right from the very beginning and that's not healthy at all. The first parts of a relationship should be the whirlwind romantic parts and I don't think you'd have that with him after all this.

Ideally, I would tell you that you should not even bother with this guy. It sounds like carrying on a relationship with him would only bring you more emotional turmoil and pain. But, if you really want to be with him, you definitely need to at least take some time before you jump into a relationship with him. If he truly wants to be with you, then he'll wait for you. There's always the possibility that he could just use you as a rebound, which would only break your heart.

Whatever you decide to do, we'll all be here for you at PC regardless!

There was a Blues festival near where I live, and I went to it with my brother, and then met my friend a while later, to see different bands. It turned out he was going, and just my luck as I was getting off the bus guess who was the very first person my eyes landed on -.-
He was with the girl, and she was waving his arms at him, and shouting at him, but i couldnt quite make out what she was saying, and everytime he tried to walk away she would block him and start again. i ignored it, not wanting to meet the girl yet, and me and my brother went off to get food. We were sitting at the table when the girl and her friends walk in, and she literally stood infront of my table glaring at me over my brothers shoulder. Then she got food at sat at the very next table, made sure she was facin me and glared some more. She knows rightly who I am, but as the night went on she seemed to get more friendly to me, until she was actually in a conversation with me and some random guy that we both knew. That confused me.

Then I ended up standing with him, and some people he knew ran over and started asking him was it true that him and the girl were broke up, and he was like yea, but she wont go away and leave me alone. I then went off and met my friend off her bus, and me and her didnt meet back up with him because I decided to stay away for a while.
Then at the end of the night me and my brothers taxi claimed we had cancelled, and never appeared, and my brother shouted at me and walked away, so i decided to stay where i was until he came back so he wouldnt lose me.
I was sitting on the kerb waiting and the guy came over and took me to his friends with him because he didnt like that i was alone.

it was raining and there was no where to take shelter, and i was absoultly freezing so he gave me his jacket saying he didnt need it. he then hugged me infront of his friends and when they werent looking he whispered that he missed me. about 15 minutes later we were all standin normally and talking and the girl walks over and starts screaming and yelling at him again, about how he didnt want to break up with her, and that he should rethink everything, and that she wasnt going to let him do this (probably referring to break up with her)
she then tried to kiss him, and he pushed her away saying no, and she tried again, and he ducked saying to stop it, and she started crying, and i felt so sorry for her :/ it must have been horrible.. he settled for letting her kiss him on the cheek and then told her best friend to take her away and calm her down somewhere because she was acting crazy.

so yea im pretty sure that he has broke up with her, but she doesnt seem to be accepting it.. Im going to wait a while like you said, I want to wait and see what is clearly going on, and not jump into anything..

Lets look at this from the girlfriend's perspective for a moment. IF she did find out about you two, it would hurt her and you and maybe him. Some men don't care and cheating is the norm for them.

If he can do this to someone he really, really, really likes, he can and in a way, is cheating on you as well.

Don't you think you deserve to have your own man? Afterall, HE chose her again after chosing you. That may be a test to see if you will tolerate this unacceptable behavior.

Gather your support around you.

I wouldn't waste my time.

Yeah I kind of have to side with Flooded. You really just shouldn't waste your time with this guy even if he is "newly single". It really wouldn't surprise me if he ended up back with this girl, though. For right now he's probably testing the waters, hoping the break-up would mollify you and make you come swooping into his arms. Then he may decide to take her back and try to have you both AGAIN after he butters you up for a bit. I'm not saying that is what would happen, but it sounds like he's not entirely let go of his relationship with her either. And it sounds like he is just that sort of person from what you've described.

I'd suggest you write him off entirely and focus on yourself for a while before you even begin thinking about relationships. I know it won't be easy and I know it will hurt. But you are compromising your self-respect every time you beg for a sliver of attention from this boy. He doesn't deserve your regard. You deserve a guy who will make you number one from the get-go. And, as others have pointed out, look at the way he has treated his girlfriend. Put yourself in her shoes for a moment. I'm not doing this to make you feel guilty, but just think for a moment about how he treated her. He was utterly disrespectful of her feelings and her as a person while they were in a relationship to say nothing of how he treated you when you two were not in a relationship. Do you really think you'll be any different to him should you two become a couple? I just wouldn't trust this guy at all.

Whatever choice you make, I hope it's the right one for you. Best of luck!

You deserve so much better. If you do take him back, he will take this as a sign of acceptable behavior on his part and things will get really bad. If he can cheat on her, he can cheat on you.