[Dahliaxx]

Recently ended a couple of different relationships.

The first, a friendship with a girl I've known since preschool. I'm taking this one really hard and I'm wondering how I should go about this. She said she wanted to patch things up, but I'm the only one who has put forth any effort. All of which has been deflected. Do I continue making an effort or do I let it go?

The second, an emotionally conflicting romantic relationship. My feelings for him jumped majorly on a day to day basis because he was very indifferent with me on some days and very loving on others. I was very emotionally confused throughout the entirety of the relationship. And crushed when he decided to seek out affection from another girl. I felt guilty and ashamed because I took the initiative to "beg" him to take me back. A month later, I ended things. At first this left me feeling relieved and happy with myself for getting the courage up to finish things as I thought they should be. Now I'm back to feeling confused and wondering if I should try to reconcile at least a friendship with him. Or is that just utterly stupid?

Originally Posted by Dahliaxx

Recently ended a couple of different relationships.

The first, a friendship with a girl I've known since preschool. I'm taking this one really hard and I'm wondering how I should go about this. She said she wanted to patch things up, but I'm the only one who has put forth any effort. All of which has been deflected. Do I continue making an effort or do I let it go?

I would try one more time to see if you could have a lunch or coffee to see if you could just hang out. Sometimes with long term friends you don't have to actually talk about what happened in the past but just kind of get over it and move on.

The second, an emotionally conflicting romantic relationship. My feelings for him jumped majorly on a day to day basis because he was very indifferent with me on some days and very loving on others. I was very emotionally confused throughout the entirety of the relationship. And crushed when he decided to seek out affection from another girl. I felt guilty and ashamed because I took the initiative to "beg" him to take me back. A month later, I ended things. At first this left me feeling relieved and happy with myself for getting the courage up to finish things as I thought they should be. Now I'm back to feeling confused and wondering if I should try to reconcile at least a friendship with him. Or is that just utterly stupid?

It doesn't sound like this was a fulfulling relationship at all.
You should be very proud of yourself for getting the courage up to end this unhealthy relationship.

Why would you want to be friends with a guy that treated you so badly and that you felt so good about breaking up with?
It's not stupid...But I'm guessing that maybe you are lonely?

My opinion is that you should not try to be friends with someone who made you unhappy. But you need to do what makes you happy.

[afterrain]

I think you should just give everything some time. And you right now are just feeling alone and wanting to be with someone. It is not a good idea to get back with this guy. You should be in a relationship with someone that likes you for you. Hope everything works out for you.

[Dahliaxx]

Thank you both. I know you are right. Loneliness sometimes gets the best of me. And I feel a little guilty for ending things. More concern for him than myself. But as of now, I have no plans to talk with him again. =)

And jadedmoonbeam, I plan to try one last time, to speak with the old friend. Getting together with her seems to be a good idea. Whether to resolve the differences or just know that we are officially going our own ways. Thank you!