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Jun 14, 2011, 05:59 PM
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so i have been flirting, talking to this guy for 2 years. he is a friend and we had an intial attraction. we eventually once made out (it was pretty heavy) but i ended up getting back with my ex - and told him. after i told him, we didn't talk for like 6 months.
however, this past april we started talking again. only, he is back with his ex. but i know, from what he has told me, that "she is crazy" and blah blah. do you think, that once i move back to LA and actually hang with him - he will break up with his ex for me, if he senses that what we have is real and can turn into a new relationship? i feel like he is just keeping her around until i come back. am i delusional? do guys do this with unpredictable girls like me? i was a borderline,bipolar mess last year and for many years - you could say. but i finally got help this year, and have improved (i think). |
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Jun 14, 2011, 08:31 PM
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I would simply say...wait until the other relationship is over and he has time to move on from it before you try anything further.
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Jun 14, 2011, 10:48 PM
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No he won't dump his ex so don't put yourself through the torture
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Jun 15, 2011, 12:04 PM
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((palemoss))
I think that moving back to LA, and expecting your ex to break up with his gf (for you) is an unhealthy expectation. You would only be setting yourself for disappointment. A man willing to leave his gf, when another girl comes to town isn't real reliable. While you may initially think that he really does love you, it was meant to be, etc. Chances are real good that it's just a matter of time before that little part of your mind gets paranoid that your bf has similar relationships with other girls & your relationship with him ends. I'd advise you to remain light friends with your ex once you move. Maybe something special will grow between you if his relationship with the gf does end. Maybe not. Don't depend on that happening though. Focus on building your personal strength before looking for another to share time and your sense of "self" with. Very best wishes & hugs to you!
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Jun 15, 2011, 12:16 PM
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thanks u guys, seriously.
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