[Xeneon]

I'm putting a trigger warning for the just to be safe.

I have a friend that I know is not good for me but she is the only one that stays around. She just doesn't leave and I thought maybe we would grow apart. Shes on a whole nother page of her life then I am. She has a baby and a boyfriend and somehow we are still friends. This is why I saw she isn't good for me is because I do things with her I normally wouldn't do like drinking. We drink and we sometimes thinking to get drunk. Not just to have some fun but to be drunk. I have never aloud myself to get drunk yet but who knows. Then for awhile I questioning who I was and what i was but theres just things I wouldn't be doing if I wasn't her friend but at the same time we have a good time. Most of my friends don't stay for awhile, they come and go as they please, which is fine but sometimes I just need a friend and the one I'm talking about seems to be there all the time.

What you all think? I hope this make sense. I could use some advice.

Thanks to everyone that reads this.

Well, it sounds like this friend of yours has some positive qualities that you admire. If you think she's worth keeping as a friend, is it possible for you to have a serious chat with her about wanting to do things that don't revolve around bad activities - like too much drinking? Maybe you two could go out to dinner, or see a movie. Something positive.

If she doesn't want to stop drinking with you and/or only wants to hang out with you to get drunk, maybe she's not worth keeping as a friend if she's going to continue being a negative influence on you.

[Xeneon]

We don't always drink but my parents don't like her because they say I am different when I'm around her. The thing is shes great but at the sametime I feel like I'm fighting to keep her and fighting to stay the person I am. It feels like I don't know who I really am when I'm with her. If this make any sense at all. Anyways thanks for the advice.

[Leed]

It kind of sounds like there's a measure of "danger" in the relationship and that's the part that you like. It's "exciting" and you never know what's going to happen.

If you aren't yourself when you're with her, then I'd say this is a friendship heading for disaster. The fact that the both of you plan to get drunk is definitely unhealthy!!! Drinking to excess can bring about all kinds of problems -- including alcoholism!!!

A good healthy friendship is one where the other person accepts you the way you are -- and you don't have to "change" in order to have fun or to be accepted. I don't think this girl is a good choice of a friend -- but that's for you to decide. Just be very careful. Hugs, Lee

[Xeneon]

I just don't want to have no one if that makes sense. It would be nice if I could find some friends but you know this world doesn't accept everyone. Thanks to the ones that replyed.