[Dreamwolf]

I am dreamwolf, a fourteen-year-old who doesn't talk much. Reason: when I was a kid, I used to be a chatterbox. But I eventually stopped talking since everything I said was a joke for my mom to tell the world. I heard her laugh about any stupid thing I said, even if I was being serious. I was self-conscious back then so I guess I got embarrassed and shut up... That is possible, right? My not talking is something I hate about me. I can't tell my parents if something is wrong. I can't even tell my friend, who I trust, what is often wrong with me ( he got upset when I refused to tell him). I've kept to myself for years that I've become awful at keeping a simple conversation going. I can't put my thoughts into words clearly enough... I've had people even ask me why I don't talk much. I just answer, " I don't know". Ugh... My mom still makes fun of me. I'm serious and she laughs at me... I admit, i don't get along with her well... Anyways, i just wanted to get all that off my chest (first time I've told this story). So... Yeah...

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(((((((((Dreamwolf)))))))))

[Korin]

Welcome.

You might not talk much but you can write. I hope to read more of your posts.

[IceCreamKid]

I gently suggest you consider sitting down with your mother and telling her that her laughing at you distresses you. Children often see parents as all-knowing, but they are not. She may have no idea that what she is doing has driven a wedge between you two and affected your relations with others. Once you tell her, she can no longer live in a giggling fog of not knowing.

[beauflow]

I agree with Icrcreamkid, try to have a serious talk...... I know it can be hard but like Icrcreamkid says, she won't be in the dark about it... Wish you well and keep posting

[madisgram]

welcome dreamwolf . i'm glad u're here. sounds like your mom broke your trust and now it's hard to trust anyone cause u're afraid it may happen with someone else. your thoughts and opinions are yours to say. it doesn't matter if ppl agree with us or not. your thoughts/said are yours and yours alone. maybe practice opening up with some close friends. that may reinforce the fact that everyone is not like your mom. if it were me i'd tell her how it made me feel when she blabbed.

[Trippin2.0]

Wow... My 7y.o daughter doesn't like me sharing her bloopers, if she says s0mething funny i ask permissi0n to share, for fear of hurting her,an i giggle too,i think it's the cutest thing ever... You've given me a glimpse to the other side. Thank you :-) please d0n't judge your m0ther harshly before you find out why she does what she does. She might be as ign0rant as i was before stumbling across your post. Hugz to you, i'm sorry her acti0ns hurt you...

[shezbut]

(((Dreamwolf)))

Your experience does sound painful. I am sorry that your mom hurt you so deeply. You do have every right to feel hurt, angry, and mistrustful. She's going to have to earn your trust again.

Have you tried working with a therapist? They are a very safe resource to share your thoughts and feelings with. They are there to help people like you. To help you through the pain & make your world a better place. If that isn't an option, perhaps you should try writing a letter to your parents describing how your mom's actions (teasing) really hurt you deeply. You are in pain and you deserve an honest apology and change.

Best wishes to you ~ hope to see your around PC!

[Korin]

I overheard my mum talking to a neighbour about me it really hurt.
I don't think they realise what they are doing.

I remember taking a phone call for my daughter and saying in all innocence that she was in the loo would you like to hold. She had a fit at me for telling this boy she was in the loo. Needless to say I never made that mistake again.

[GLMike77]

I had a friend who was similar to you in that he wouldn't talk. I think what helped him out was having a friend like me, who talked a lot and kept urging him to talk. Take small steps, and soon you'll see that it's not that hard to get talking again.

[Silent_tsol]

I can relate to how you feel, I'm very similar however I think my quietness comes from school offering the wrong answer. But now I too, worry about feeling stupid if I say something so I don't say much to anyone.

Your mom probably doesn't say these things to hurt you, she may even ironically be showing how much she cares. Parents often see their kids doing silly things as cute and that's why they share it with their friends. I think you should try to talk to her, and maybe talking to a counsellor can help you find a way to approach that