Birthday Blowup

I've been seething since he and I had this conversation the other night. He claims we weren't having enough sex. This has been his defense all along and not a new revelation. During times when we would discuss this problem (before he went to the other woman), I told him that I wouldn't reject him - I figured that would solve the problem. I also told him before, that he needed to be more assertive rather than waiting for me to make the moves - I didn't mind doing this sometimes. So he came to the ridiculous logic, that if I wasn't supplying him with what he needed, he was going to get it elsewhere.

He seems to think sex wasn't/isn't important to me, therefore I should be fine being celibate for the rest of my life - what a crock of you know what. He thinks he can make the decision regarding my viability as a woman and I should be fine with him having sex, since he CLAIMS its not important for me therefore I don't need it ever again.

He hasn't slept out of the house in a year, so I was thinking he was done with that particular woman...although that didn't give me hope because I'm done wanting to be with him. Since the birthday blowup he's been gone last Saturday and last night. I never did know who that woman was or who he's with now. I even think he would use his recent brothers death to worm his way back into the other woman again or a new one. I don't expect a solution because there isn't one ATM - I just need to vent.