[Jenn1fer82]

I finally left my bf of 2 yrs about a month now. He still texts me everyday to wish me a good day but I dont ever respond back to him. I've gone back to him a few times before but this time I've had enough and have really distanced myself from him.

Lately I've been feeling very lonely and I miss being held. The nights when I have trouble sleeping I know I can have him beside me to hold me until I can fall asleep. I miss the comfort I felt from him. Every time he texts me the thoughts linger and I want to talk to him, to see him and get those old feelings back again. I do try to focus on the reasons why the relationship made me so unhappy, why he broke my heart and the frustration and anger I feel from staying in the relationship for so long. Still I have those short moments in the day and loneliness sneaks in and it just overwhelms me.

How do you ignore those lonely feelings after a break up?

[kitten16]

Ooh, it's tough. Of course you can't ignore your feelings...there's no way to go around it, so you have to go through it.

You'll get over it, but it takes time. In the meantime, it's normal to wish you had a lobotomy. Consciousness itself can seem painful.

Try not to slide into self-destructive behaviors. Although it doesn't sound like you're in danger of that.

Support from others - friends - and distractions (like taking a class, learning something new, or embarking on a big project - preferably with other people) can really help. In the past when I didn't have a lot of support, I saw a therapist and talked about my feelings. It helped a lot. You need SOMETHING.

Keep updating!

[rubyindie]

yes its hard to get over some constants in your life, like kitten said, distraction is a great way to get back to normal. thinkng and doing things you like to do with people who make u comfortable is a sure way to get your brain to stop focussing on depressive thoughts. maybe a pat from a friend or laugh over silly things with buddies can lift your spirits. enjoy the moment of being your own person almost like spring cleaning.
be sure to vent out your feelings in words on a paper if u cant find an understanding friend to express your feelings to. bottling them up and pretending it'll go away will only cause all of it to spill over someway someday.believe this world has more to offer in terms of hapiness than you can think of now.
trying to find it in everything u see and do will give you the greatest rush in life almost similar to the rush of being in love. hang in there.......hugs........:-)