NEED TO VENT(removing some thoughts out of my head)

After 15+ years of friendship and now we dont even talk to each other. I stay up all hours of the night wondering if you were really as true of a friend you claimed to be. I've been there for you through everything, all I needed from you was to be happy for me but instead you are (jelious?) because I found someone who completes me. Idk, maybe thats not it at all but i wouldnt know because I cant even talk to you about it, you're hard to talk to, one minute you understand and the next you could care less about anything other than yourself. I still love you with all my heart and miss you and your girls like crazy. And it's driving me CRAZY!! I feel like ive made attempts to reconnect with you but i get nothing in return. LOOOOONG story about us....i dont even know were and how to begin on all my feelings about our relationship/friendship. Blah!! Will save the rest for another time. Maybe i can sleep a little better tonight getting some of this out somewhere......TBC(to b continued)

maybe it's time to reach out and make new friends. it's painful in circumstances like this but you have a right to be happy. your "friend's" love is conditional. that's not the way true friends are.

I agree with Madisgram ~ this "friend" seems a little selfish, and puts conditions on your friendship.

Perhaps she has "moved on" and made new friends -- that sometimes happens even with so-called close friends. Maybe it would help writing her a letter and asking for an explanation as to why the silence? The answer might hurt, but at least you'd know. Then again, she may not answer at all!

I have a good friend who i've known for over 50 years -- we basically grew up together. She takes me as I am, and I her -- warts & all. LOL If there was something wrong between us, we'd certainly talk about it.

Take care & God bless. I hope you feel better soon. Hugs, Lee

I hate to be blunt but I think you hit it right on the head, it's jealousy. My sister actually went thru this a few years ago.

My sister was near 40 at the time (38) and finally met a great guy after going out with guys that would emotionally hurt her or just use her. My sisters group of freinds were just like her, most of them mid to late 30s, nearing 40s, single career minded women, with either no time to date or just bad luck meeting men who were jerks.

So finally she let the cat out of the bag and told her friends she met a great guy and it was serious and she couldn't believe this was happening to her (my sis is pretty attractive physically and all her life guys just wanted one thing from her so she was really excited the guy she met wasn't like that). That's when as she described it, most of her so called friends turned on her.

Some like your experience just wouldn't talk to her anymore and tell other women to shut her off. Some in her work place would use past personal conversations and try to pit her off against someone else in the workplace or an old ex. From what she described to me, it got really weird.

So she asked me for some advice, and from analyzing the situation, and I think it's the same w/ yours, I told her that her so called friends gave her an ultimatum, us or your new boyfriend!

So sometimes we have to learn our lessons the hard way, and she decided to move on with the next stage of her life and ditch most of those old friends. Now some of the old friends were happy for her, and she's been in touch with them, but the poisonous ones she hardly interacts with, maybe if she has to like at work.

My sis just married that guy this past summer and has plans to have children. She is happy, and I hope some of her old friends are happy for her too. So If the guy is right for you, makes you Happy, and you think you have a future with him, it's your choice who to pick - or better yet, your friend will come around and be happy for you.