[Littlefish]

I came from a dyfunctional family, maybe this is the reason i cant settle down...?
each time when i feel closer to a man and feel he is maybe the right one, soon i will start to doubt, and i start to find shortcomings of the relationship, so i seek elsewhere, i v been talking to men from all over the world.....still can't settle down.
I dont know how to make my inner side in peace with this,
because same time i desire a family.

and today i talk to myselfh well, we r all in one, so why bother finding a special one?
Having a family, not having a family----it is same afterwards, we r still one connected to each other forever in the world in universe and always.

Maybe i shall just surrender, and wait and see.......
Let it go, and Let universe do something to surprise me?

[emptybee15]

I feel the same way! It's coming up on a year with my boyfriend. He's so nice, sweet, loving, all of that good stuff, however I find myself not liking him sometimes and wanting to just leave him. I feel like I don't deserve him, then I feel like he's probably cheating so he doesn't deserve me, then I just want attention from men because I didn't and don't get any from male family members, so I'm seeking some sort of love that I'll never get.

It's all so confusing, because I would like to have a family too, but when we were having a disagreement last night, I just wanted to throw in the towel because I lack the skills of communicating properly and working together with someone. I had to become selfish in prior relationships and now I can't reverse it.

Too Freakin' Complicated!

GRRRRRRR!

[Soul Quake]

So you've made attempts at relationships, only to be overcome with doubt, to the point where the relationship ends.

Residual feelings from your childhood could very well be playing a role. Come to terms with emotions in your past and in your current state. Find a professional to guide you.

If this has been a behavioral pattern stemming years, you seem to be on repeat. So something has to change. You have to get to the source of these doubts. Doubts can be in your best interest, but if they're always around, and you use them as a way to flee, then they can become problematic.