[lxegirl]

I met this guy working at the summer camp. I've never felt this way before; i can actually see myself marrying him and he isn't even my offical boyfriend yet but I honestly love him, and he says he loves me too. I feel like i know him so well (being around him 24/7 for 5 weeks) and that we're perfect together although seperately at least i'm dysfuntional. just wondering if anyone believes in soul mates- i think i found mine

I don't believe in soul mates.

[arcangel]

I always wanted to believe...never found any proof. If I were you I'd proceed...with caution. IIRC your age is mid to late teen? Wishing you the best

[(JD)]

I know that feeling! I think though you can keep it in mind, but not act upon it. You are quite young yet...and while this feels great for now, don't solidify it because the real soul mate might still be in the future. There can be many more
"feelings" in this groove to come, don't limit yourself so young, please!

I recall finding my soul mate... but alas I was already with someone else that was a "permanent" relationship. I couldn't pursue him.

[lynn P.]

I used to believe in the concept and I still hope there is such a thing. I once thought I found the best partner but I'm afraid the fact I was naive and inexperienced clouded the reality unfortunately. One thing that happens more so when we're younger is the actual chemical and hormonal attraction - I don't mean to burst anyones bubble lol. When we meet the person we're attracted to, we produce oxytocin and adrenaline, this makes us feel content, aroused but it also can cloud our judgement sometimes.

[50guy]

No. I don't believe in soul mates.

[arcangel]

Originally Posted by lynn P.

I used to believe in the concept and I still hope there is such a thing. I once thought I found the best partner but I'm afraid the fact I was naive and inexperienced clouded the reality unfortunately. One thing that happens more so when we're younger is the actual chemical and hormonal attraction - I don't mean to burst anyones bubble lol. When we meet the person we're attracted to, we produce oxytocin and adrenaline, this makes us feel content, aroused but it also can cloud our judgement sometimes.

Tell it like it is lol. It can also make you see things in a person that aren't there and miss seeing things that are
Still...we only get one adolescence. Enjoy it lxegirl...just be careful and don't make any long term commitments for now.

[lxegirl]

well i'm not interested in anything physical with him. i'm perfectly content with just talking and cuddling and such

[Blades]

I do because I met my soul mate when I was only five years old. Her name was Jessica and I still remember the first time I saw her. I thought she was an angel and I was so nervous talking to her I’d say really dumb things that made absolutely no sense and she said I was funny. We became best friends and we would cry when it was time for one of us to go home so our parents let us stay with each other. It was our love for music that ultimately brought us closer together too and we’d listen to songs and sing them together. Jessica wanted to be a singer and I just wanted to be with her so we were going to be a duo.

To say we were close was an understatement. We were basically attached to each other and wherever one went the other would follow. We slept over each other’s houses all the time and we were like a married couple in some ways. Nobody understood how much we loved each other and some people were jealous as we got older because they didn’t have a love like ours. We were real soul mates and to have that connection – that bond at our age is and was very rare.

She loved poetry and a lot of the classic romance movies with Cary Grant, Rock Hudson, Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin her Mother watched and I secretly did too. I thought if I could write her poetry she would fall in love with me like they did in the movies and it worked and she gave me my first kiss when I was only eight years old. We became even more attached then and we’d hold hands, cuddle and kiss all the time and we’d snuggle when we went to bed.

I was madly in love with her and I would go out of my way to do things to impress her and make her laugh. Some of the things were crazy and I remember climbing the biggest tree in our school one day and when she came out of the toilet to find me she told me it was dangerous and to get down. I got stuck up there because I was too scared to get down and Jessica climbed up the tree herself and helped me down. She asked me why I did it and I told her I was trying to impress her and she said I didn’t have to impress her because she was already in love with me.

When I was at my Grandfather’s house one afternoon Jessica and I were playing catch outside and I accidentally threw the ball on his roof. I climbed up there to get it even though she was telling me not to because it wasn’t safe and she was right. I fell off the roof and nearly broke my left leg. Jessica was hysterical to say the least and I was more worried about her than I was myself. She came up to the Doctor’s with me and she wouldn’t let me out of her sight. I had to walk with crutches for a while and I had a few weeks off school and Jessica had them off with me because she wanted to look after me. When she would get the flu I would get the flu too just so I could take care of her.

I asked Jessica to marry me when I was only fourteen. She said yes and I put a burger ring on her finger. lol When I think about all the times we shared that was without a doubt, the happiest day of my life. Jessica was everything to me and she loved me with all her heart and soul. We had the kind of love most people say only exists in movies but the difference between real life and movies is we don't always have happy endings. She passed away when I was sixteen and my life fell apart.

Without going into too many details I spent almost a whole year in my bedroom crying and I tried to commit suicide three times. I then got a job and got addicted to cocaine and become an alcoholic. A few years later I met a girl called Rachel who saved me from my depression. We become best friend and I was in love with her but she was a lesbian. We were attached to each other like I was with Jessica and I moved into her house with her because she wanted us to be like Will and Grace but the opposite way around. She passed away too and my life fell apart again but I kept it together this time.

I have a new girlfriend now and she is the first woman I have had a proper relationship with since Jessica passed away. Her name is Mandy and she is four years older than me. While we are not as attached to each other as Jessica and I were we are very close and she lives with me. She makes me feel the same way Jessica did and I never loved another woman this much since she passed away. I guess my question is do people believe in the chances of finding a second soul because I think I found mine.

[Abyssal]

I don't think any such thing exists .. some people are lucky to found a real love, a healthy relationship though .. i would call it luck as i dont find any other reason of some people living a healthy relationship and some dont.

My personal experience is a bit strange to be honest.. the first time i attracted to a guy turned out to be a playboy .. i thought i never felt like that before, i thought i would never feel for anyone like that but as soon as the time passed, and i moved on .. it is over .. even now, when we pass each other, my feelings are quite normal about him .. the 2nd time i have a crush on guy .. well, u can call it a crush but i think i am romantically attracted towards him .. Never felt romantically for anyone .. and he is getting married soon .. no such sadistic feelings whatsoever .. maybe, i still have to find a soul mate or a right person whom i love genuinely .. maybe !!

[missbelle]

I think the Universe has room for more then one soul mate for each of us. After all people remarry and find love again. My first husband died when I was 25 leaving me with an 18 month old daughter. I found love again...and again!!

[Bella01]

yes, I believe in soul mates. I've married mine. Every turn and decision I made in my life got me to him. Even the bad times I was still headed to meet him.

We've been married for 30 years and I couldn't think of what my life would be like if I didn't decide to go on that first date because I thought he wasn't like me.

[MultiRiley]

Sometimes I feel like im looking for love in all the wrong places :/

[lxegirl]

thanks for sharing, blades best of luck!!!!

and thanks for your opinions everyone else!

[mgran]

Yes I do. I married my soul mate. I warn you though, someone will have their heart broken. My husband died, and I'll never get over it. I wouldn't want to. I'd rather miss him every day than forget him. The pain keeps him close.

If you can handle the risk of that heart break, then I'd say go for it. When we first talked you couldn't stop us... we had so much to share, so much in common. By three weeks I knew he was the only man for me. I'd guessed as much for weeks. It was worth the pain of bereavement and loss to have had those years with him... I honestly do think that you can know from very early in a relationship. But in the end, it's never what someone else thinks, it's only what you know that matters.

[Blades]

Originally Posted by lxegirl

thanks for sharing, blades best of luck!!!!

You're welcome and thanks. For a long time it was hard talking about Jessica because it made me cry but when I think about it now it makes me smile. I know wherever she is now she would want me to be happy and one day I will see her again but I now have Mandy and she has made me the happiest I have been in a long time. Soul mates are definitely do exist but for some people they are harder to find than others.

[Susancarter]

Before I dated this one, I didn’t believe in anything like such a thing. Now seeing how much compatible we are and how much do we get along. I think I have changed my mind and I do believe soul mate.

[PBJandPICKLES]

....hmmm.... well... since I am a hopeless romantic myself ... my own answer surprises me... no.

At least not in the sense that there is only ONE. Maybe in the sense that your souls are kindred spirits but who's to say that there aren't other kindred spirits out there?

hmmm????

[StrongerMan]

Soul mate is a construct of the mind.

[MoniqueS]

Well I'm very happy for you! And I'm not sure if I do believe in soul mates. Probably not. I feel like the whole idea of it might be setting people up for a lot of disappointment.

[PBJandPICKLES]

Originally Posted by MoniqueS

Well I'm very happy for you! And I'm not sure if I do believe in soul mates. Probably not. I feel like the whole idea of it might be setting people up for a lot of disappointment.

AGREED!!!