[moonbeam2]

here is my question? i think this web sight is a really good tool,i have a friend that i gave this websight to,i did this today,the reason i asked if it was a mistake ,is because i see my friend almost everyday,he knows just about everything about me,he knows my finances,he helps me with the bills just orginizing them & helps me with them,at times its really hard for me to do this because i get confussed & everything becomes overwhelming for me to handel,i pay my bills he is just a support buddy,he takes me to my t when i have to go,he helpt me when i had to appley for my meds so i can get them free,he does a whole lot for me ,he know when me & my husband argue ,witch is not offten at all,so bascily he is in my life alot,sometime to much ,we go to the same doctor cause he introduced me to him,great doc i couldent ask for a better 1,he goes to the same office i go to to see my T ,sometime i feel like there is no space for myself,so when my son found this websight i thought great a good place to vent in privet,but he to has a illness ,& he puts alot on me ,he tells me im his world & without me he,he wouldent be here without me,he has no other reason to live,he has had like 45 surgeries or even more probably,i think we r very close when it comes to being friends we rely on each other alot,he more than me,my goal for giveing him this web sight was for the soul purpose so that he can vent ,get more info that someone eles can provide more than what i can ,& yes to take off some of the burden that i face ,but when i say burden i dont mean that to be rude just dont know the word im looking for,the thing that concerns me is now he has accuess to all my thoughts ,like my real personal ones,sorta like this post im doing now?or if there is a issue between me & my husband that i dont want him to know,see he is 60yrs & im 42 & he being older thinks he is always right ,but im just as stubbern as he is,i think it would be neet if we can go into a chat room at night,instead of texing each other,so there r good points & there are bad points ,i guess the saying goes you gotta take the good with the bad i guess,i think it would be a greater gift than inconvence i guess,if things get to were its to much i guess i can just change my screen name?i dont know any thoughts on this one ?

[Leed]

Hi ~ It sounds like he's in EVERY single aspect of your life -- that your life isn't really your own!

I think I would stop telling him EVERYTHING -- and just tell my therapist things that I'm having trouble with. If your friend doesn't have all the info, perhaps you'll feel more at ease. It's nice to have a good friend -- but I think perhaps you need to back off on some of what you tell him.

Just a suggestion. I wish you the best & hope things work out. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[unaluna]

I think it is a gift you gave him. It's like you just brought your friend to Disneyland - he may want to ride the first few rides with you, but eventually - well maybe that's not the best example! he might not even like it here, my friends won't even l0ok at it. so I think he will either make it his own, as we all do, and not get hung up on what you post, or maybe not at all. but I would probably only trust my T with my name.

[PBJandPICKLES]

It's a little late to worry about it now. If you are too worried though and want something all your own, maybe there are more sites like this one out there that you can use instead! That way you still have your own little peace of heaven. This is a great place for ppl who need it so it was kind of you to think of him.

Just a thought.

[ledz]

Please! Change your screen name!
I believe that you have overextended your relationship with your friend. It's clear that he needs to give you some space. He should understand and respect that your personal and private life are yours... your space and that you will share what you want or not.
Can you tell him that you need some space without hurting his feelings? You need to try in any case because the sharing has gone too far.