I met this woman last June. I have never seen her before. She was a stranger to me. It just happened that we were at the same place at the same time.

When I met her she has just got out of hospital from a suicide attend. She was very shy and scared to talk to people. I don't know why but she was drawn to me and it was to me that she confided in. We became so much friend but with bondaries that we both respected.

It happened that she moved in apartment right beside my daughter so we kept a bit in contact like when I was going to my daughter and she would be outside. Sometime when she would see my car she would come out to talk to me.

She had only enough money to pay her rent and since I know this city more then her I guided her towards food bank and places like that.

Last weekend something happened. I was at my daughter and someone in the building beside me called 911. There was an ambulance and 5 police cars. I thought of her instantly. What happened is really tragic and I can't get it out of my mind. My friend's boyfriend has cheated on her with the neighbor. So what she did when she find that out is she got drunk, when to this girl apartment, smashed her face with a broken beer bottle. She got arrested for assault with weapon.

She is a very gentle person. She was so kind with me. She was so hurt in her pass. She just needed love.

I don't know what I can do for her now. She is in jail. This is braking my heart. I can't get it out of my mind.

Thank you for reading.

time0

[kimmydawn]

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you can pray, wish or hope for her. you're very limited to do more. you could possibly set up writing to her if she's incarcerated for this?

i think the decision you have in front of you is a very personal one regarding how you might proceed. my decision would be based on how long i'd known this person, how much time we'd spent together, if i was sure that i wasn't only seeing one "side" of her, are similar things of this nature in her past, etc.

if there's no question in your mind that you want to proceed, then you could contact the courts and try to find out how you can write to her.

you have an important decision ahead of you. sending peaceful wishes full of wisdom

Thank you sweetie,

Your words are very wise. I will surely take them in consideration. I really appreciate your reply.

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time0

[jmo531]

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Thank you!

time0

[BlueFaith]

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I'm sorry your friend found herself in this horrible situation. I hope you are able to at least write to her if that's what you want to do. Take care..

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{Time0}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Only you know how much you can handle, Sweety. Let your heart speak then think with your head about staying in touch with her, however possible.

[Mahali]

Time0,

I know you to be gentle and kind. No doubt this is what drew her to you. It sounds like she has a lot on her plate and could use a friend but please be cautious as to what you may be getting involved in. I agree in ckecking to see what her past actions have been and then follow your heart but with eyes wide open.

She went to court.

She got house arrest, she has to follow a special program too but I don't know which one and she had to move out of that building apartment immediatelly and she can't go near the woman she has injured.

Now all this was told to me by her neightbor. So I don't know if it's true or not. But she has moved out and I don't know where. So I have lost contact with her.

Thank you!

I heard about her 2 weeks ago. The last time she went to court she had charges against her for attempted murder and she had to go back to yet another court. But she wasn't in jail but I don't know where she was living.

3 nights ago she was walking alone 2 streets from where I live. There is a train track there that goes through the city. She jumped in front of the train. God knows how but she survived. She is in critical condition. I don't know if she will make it. I also don't know if this is good or bad. I have mixed up feelings about all this.

[jmo531]

I am so sorry to hear this. It breaks my heart to know how great her pain was inside to do something so drastic. My thoughts are with her and with you Time0.

[hillbunnyb]

TimeO, how sad. She picked a hard route. Take care of yourself. I once slightly knew a woman who jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge. I had to stop myself from getting into the what ifs: what if I had befriended her?, what if I had ???, you know, taken it on...... taken her on.... but then I realized, I have my hands full trying to take care of myself, I couldn't have saved her even if I'd known she needed saving. It's so sad to deal with after the fact. That's the thing about suicide, it's so hard on the people left behind, fighting guilty feelings.
She walked her own tragic path. So sad.

Yes it is the "if" that is bothering me.

And yes she was in great pain inside for her to do this. That's why "suicide" is not a game and we don't go playing around with that word.

It is also why that I am always glad to see someone who have said, in here, that they have felt suicidal to come back to let us know that they are ok or at least a bit better. It is a strong feeling and it is not a game.

Thank you for being here for me. I so appreciate it.