Is it normal?

I am afraid of being in a relationship.I am young.Is it normal.I do not think so.I am afraid of everything.to love to marry to have kids.not ready for them.what if I will never be ready?do not know what to do to live like normal people.please give me advice.I always thought that I can help myself but now I need someone to give me advice.

To love to marry is ok. Go for it. To have kids is totally different, better decide yet are you strong enough to support kids in this messed up world.

You are ready and always be ready for love. Marriage depends on your partner's expectations.

Love is a great healer... get as much love as you can.

I think your experience is normal. There are a lot of people who aren't meant to be in a relationship. That doesn't make them less of a person because of that. It's the same with people who are together. There is nothing out there that says you are required to be together, let alone married. If a romantic love comes your way and you find yourself opening up that is great. If not, that's great. Just depends on yourself.

You don't need to be in a relationship with a guy/girl to be loved. You can receive love from friends and family, too. I would focus instead on building relationships with people around you. ((HUG))

thank you aao

thank you confuse

It is perfectly normal to be apprehensive about being in a relationship... Why would you think it is not normal?

-Amanda

I thought it is not normal not be ready to be in a relationship because I am 25 (girl) and everyone at this age must be ready.too big for it.

I'm not sure exactly how young you are... but I use to be afraid of relationships (still am to a point) and I was definately scared of being married and having kids.

I'm now 31 years old and I'm actually not afraid of those things anymore... I just got out of a long relationship and I really would like to marry and have children before I'm old(er).

It really just depends on your age... if you're still a teenager then yea you probably aren't wanting to think about marrying and having children yet and that is perfectly normal.. regardless it's what you want even as you get older. Some people simply don't wish to marry or have children and there is nothing wrong with that.

Who says that at 25 you must be ready? Do you think this is so because there are many people involved in a relationship?

hello Dusty9838.I am 25.Maybe I will ready when I wil be older.maybe.
thanks for post

hello.All my classmates, friends are married and I don't think if they are married I also should be married too(I HAVE MY OWN LIFESTYLE).BUT I THINK THAT 25 IS ENOUGH TO BE BIG AND ALSO I THINK IF I WANT TO HAVE A FAMILY MUCH BUT NOT READY THAT MEANS SMTH IS WRONG WITH ME.also when i was at school I dreamt of having family in 25.I know life is not dream.I just want to be a young Mom.it is very important for me.my mom was 36 when I was born.when I grew up I was dreaming that my mom would be younger(in spite of that fact she is a good mother and I love her too much).Just anyone has her own imagination about life and ''the truth'' is individual for everyone.
thank you for reading answering.I really need support.

I know what you are going through. I know a lot people that are around my age that are married and have kids. Being a female this days are so hard because people say go to school, see the world, have a good job, and so on. But at the same time other people look at us girls, think why aren't you marry and have a family? It like everyone want young women to live the best of both worlds. But I think that it is very hard to do that. So don't let anyone make you feel like you have to do anything you don't want to. I say live life to your best and take things as they come. If you do get marry and have kids, it will be on your time. Best of luck with life.

Thank you much for your post.I never listen to what anyone tell me around.It does not important for me what others say or think.
I just wanted to live that way myself.

I'm 25 too, and a girl. When i was a kid i was getting married at 22 and having a baby at 24. when i got to be that age i realized it was happening and that's ok! Currently i'm not married and have no kids! I'm terrified of relationships, but met someone who's worth me working through that fear. Age is relative, emotionally/mentally i just turned 20 according to my therapist. Its all about personal growth and change, accepting that things didn't quite go according to plan and adapting. Life is one bid adaptation process. Enjoy it!

Thank you much for posting.

Space - I am 24 and I don't consider myself ready at all! I have already seen many of my friends get married AND divorced. Coming from a divorced home (my mom has been remarried once and my dad is on his third marriage) - marriage scares the crap out of me!

Also, I think nobody is really ever 'ready' for any of those. If you are not scared - I think THAT is when it's not normal. These things are life changing decisions which should always be a least a little scary.

Who knows.....if you meet a really awesome person who just sweeps you off your feet you may feel very 'ready'. Don't beat yourself up over it though.

Thank you much.you wrote really true things.