[DespondentDaisy]

When someone treats me crappily (damn I hate having to censor myself) for no reason. Take a certain co worker of mine for instance. He used to be cool and nice. He even had a cute nickname. Then out of the blue things changed. A few weeks ago I noticed a change. It hit me when I sat down in the break room and said ‘hi’ or something like that and he ignored me, stared straight ahead and seemingly sneered on the top of it all. WTF!? Like what the hell did I do? I’ve given up, I ignore him now too, I don’t know what happened, but I’ve learned not to waste my energy and good nature on a lost cause. But it’s effed up ‘cuz now it affects my mood at times and I think other cowrokers are starting to notice the tension. I don’t bother trying to acknowledge him when it’s just the two of us but in a crowd he acts cool, but I don’t know. Maybe no one else notices. He goes out of his way to avoid me too- when I’m open to ring him up at the register he’ll wait in another line with someone else. Maybe he likes me and is trying to hate me or something? I don’t effing know but it’s bugging me ‘cuz I thought he was a cool guy. This just adds to my job burn out, I wish I could find another job but there’s nothing else out there right now for me. Though I won’t stop looking on my days off. . ..

ps. I just hope I don't lose it., Part of me wants to act like there's no problem 'cuz noone else seems to have noticed, but the other side of me wants to confront him cuz I've become that kind of person- I thinkit would be more detrimental, - though I just want to say, "So wtf's your problem with me lately?"

[Leed]

Hi ~ I think if it was bugging me that much, I'd NICELY ask him "Have I done something to hurt or anger you?" And hopefully he'll let you know what the problem, if any, there is. I tend to be really "bugged" by stuff like that too -- I guess I want EVERYONE to like me, and that's just not going to happen. LOL

If he doesn't answer you, just let it go -- at least you tried! Sometimes you just can't please some people.

Best of luck & I hope all works out. God bless. Hugs, Lee

[alliwantislove]

i kno exactly how you feel i go through that on a daily basis. i wouldnt say confront him but ask him. if theres no answer that just let it b. i say killem with kindness dont let it get to you. in the end he is the one missing out.

[Ygrec23]

I think Leed is right. Her advice is good. But just from a neutral perspective, human beings are totally weird. All kinds of things happen between human beings that we can't understand. It's like we were fish in an aquarium, all different species together. And this dork just goes ahead and does something his species normally does and us, in our species, haven't the faintest idea what's going on. If he can't give you a decent answer after your asking a decent question as Leed suggests, just forget him, blank him out, exorcize him. After all, he really doesn't matter. Take care!

[DespondentDaisy]

Thanks for the nice suggestions. I haven't actually said anything, but he seems to have been a bit moretolerable lately, almost nice, but still not communicative. Whatever, at least he's more tolerable than he was before. I'm over it.