Why can't I move on from this Narcissist?

It has been an on and off relationship where I was all committed to him and he was like a roller-coaster of emotions. I moved to the states because I had it with his insults and excuses to why he treated me so bad. I always ended up forgiving him and trying so hard for this relationship to work. After 3 months, I called him again because I was feeling a lot of guilt since I moved, I never told him I moved just until the day I called him. We started to talk again and at first he gave me hope and then again the fights, his insults, throwing everything to my face. He said that everything's my fault, that I'm the one who doesn't know how to work a relationship, that he's sick and tired of me, that I'm ignorant, that I'm the one who needs to change, that it's because of me the relationship never works, etc etc. Then he called later saying he was sorry, that he wanted to work things out. I was willing to move back and try to work things out, even though I was scared of doing it, I tried to talked to him about it and it ended up in a huge fight. I changed my number...I've had it. I read about narcissist relationships and everything points that I was in one. I'm feeling guilty again...is it my fault? I don't know what to do...I'm feeling sick and in a huge, deep depression. Please help!

No no no my dear!!! It is not your fault at all! Obviously you are just telling one side of the story and I don't know this guy but it sounds like he really doesn't know how to handle his emotions and is very, very fickle. He probably shouldn't be in any sort of relationship until he can get his emotions under control and figure out why the heck he reacts this way. Of course if you are dating someone like this it will be a roller coaster. Someone like this shouldn't be in a relationship and they will make you feel guilty. These people aren't happy with themselves so naturally they will tell you they are not happy with you and make it seem like YOU are to blame. Which is far from the case because it sounds like you are a pretty empathetic person.

The best you can do is take yourself out of this relationship. If you want to continue talking to him, be a friend for him. Don't talk about relationships. Focus on yourself and focus on being the best possible person you can be. You can be happy when not in a relationship, and in fact, relationships that are unhealthy can be quite depressing. You definitely cannot change this person and make him who you want him to be. You can influence him...maybe help him get the help he needs or resources he needs. But life is way, WAY too short to put up with this BS and all the fights. Everyone on earth should deserve someone that is nice to them. There is no perfect relationship but the fighting in this one seems extreme. Give it time but until then focus on just yourself. And good luck

Narcissists are manipulative and controlling. Plain & simple. I was married to one & he was a horrible person. He tried to control every single aspect and person in his life. He usually ended up losing in the end.

It has nothing to do with you. Don't feel guilty. I promise you there will come a day when you are just DONE with him and you'll move on without looking back. It will be like a lightning bolt hitting you. Really. Hang in there.