[dukenmathias]

I'm gay and I've been with my boyfriend for almost seven months. For the past few months I've seen some text messages to other guys and when I confronted him about it he just tells me that I'm jealous paranoid and keeping him from having a social life. Apparently I'm just so nosy... I guess I shouldn't be looking through his in the first place but my first time discovering anything wasn't because I was suspicious. Now I'm having a hard time trusting him. And he insists that he loves me...i don't know what to do!

Welcome to the forum.

Do you think that the texts could be to friends? I would ask him again for an explantion, You need to learn to be able to trust him. xxxx

[alliwantislove]

i know how u feel i used to feel like that towards my husband with female friends. you really need to have a sit down with him and let him know how u feel, b honest, what bothers you and why it bothers you. you shouldnt hide or keep any feelings inside. they drive you insane! trust me i kno i did that until we had deep conversations about certain things and ive learned its better to just let it out. i felt like i couldnt trust him and he even asked him if i did or not and he told me to b honest, which i was hesitant at first, and i told him i do trust him just not 100%

he asked why and i told him my reasons. there are times that i get that suspicious feeling but i rather ask then assume. i think every relationship goes thru a suspicous phase.

communication is the key. have a heart to heart with him. i hope all goes well!....am here if you would like to talk some more!

[CantExplain]

I was very jealous in my first seven months. But I learned to trust my GF and she has never let me down.

[missbelle]

Welcome....I just answered a similar post about a young woman married for a short time.......First of all I am sorry this is happening......you are seeing red flags and you should be..time for a real good talk.......he is telling you that you are a jealous paranoid to shift the blame off of himself to you, making you think there is something wrong with you. There is not!!!!!!!!!!! You are right in your feelings and this needs to be resolved. You will never be able to trust again and thats the whole framework of a good relationship.IF he has other guy friends thats good but he should be able to explain it all to you and you should probably know these guys as well...afterall they are his friends right??????????????????????????

[horizonparadox]

i think its very important in all realationship to have trust. in this situation obviuosly talk to him you both need to be on the same page...and yes is was wrong to be looking in the first place, but nothing has happened yet so there is no action you can take a shouldn't try. trust is ibviuosly extremly important and is only gained from absalute openess...i was with my gf for 6 years
and we gained such as bond, because over the years we discoverd that telling eachother everything no matter how trivial will gain you both much respect and unshakeble credibility.
(we didnt breack up, it ended with death)
i sicerley hope everything works out
much love. dox