[darkeyes]

A good friend of mine is upset about something where she works, and I want to be able to say the right things, as she has been turning to me. I am careful not to put more fuel to the fire, if you know what I mean.
See, her old supervisor went to another company, she said the former supervisor was a true team leader, and sincere.
Her new supervisor, is insincere, a phoney, just to look terrific in their boss's (sp?) eyes. When the boss isn't around, the new supervisor really could give a hoot about the people working under the new supervisor, except a friend, that got a job working in their department.
To me it sounds like a sticky deal, and years ago I was in a similar situation, the only thing I already had a job lined up when I heard my supervisor was leaving, so I more or less didn't care, knowing that I'd be gone soon.
Unfortunately, this close friend of mine is not in the position to leave, right yet, but is seriously thinking of jumping on the first job she sees, I found that wasn't so great when I had done the same thing in my past.
Do you think if I suggest she talks with her boss, to see if they can come up with a better,comfortable, working atmosphere? But then, such suggestion may make matters worse, making her new supervisor more phoney or pick on her any chance the supervisor may get?
Any suggestions?

DE

[desirae]

I think that's exactly what she should do.....because if she's considering leaving anyway, why not try to put an effort into it first. If it don't work out and the supervisor ends up picking on her, then she could leave like she was originally considering anyway.

I'd encourage her to fight back because in order for the problem to be fixed, or even noticed by the other bosses somebody has to step up.

She was there first.

Good Luck, I hope it works out for your friend.
Desirae

[darkeyes]

I agree with you 100%, thanks for the input.
You have a good point, that she plans on leaving anyway, so what would she have to lose. I think the problem is health insurance, if a person is out of work and they pick up paying for their policy, it is costly when the employer's share is gone. I urged her to seriously keep looking while still employed, I have always been fortunate, in between job changes, the time was never long so I always had some overlap coverage, I hope she'll be able to also.

DE

[LMo]

DE, I wish I had some advice for you. I haven't been in an employment situation in 10 years (I freelance) because I can't deal with the office politics. I'd probably look for a new job rather than try to figure out how to deal with a phoney supervisor.

[LMo]

and by the way, you're a really good friend to her, to seek advice on her behalf. She's lucky to have you!