Ending It?

I'm really sick of my relationship with the bf. I don't love him. I care for him and all that but I don't see us progressing anymore. So I'm thinking of leaving him and going to the life he is keeping me from. He doesn't approve of my bisexuality, my religion, my views, none of that. So I'm really considering leaving him. He thinks there's nothing wrong with our relationship at all.

So the next step is trying to figure out a way to do it since he is currently living with me. So even if I did break it off with him I'd still have to face him. He always says he'd go back to where he's from...Pittsburgh, PA. I don't think he'd do very well down there but I just cannot do this anymore.

I'm also interested in someone else, too. He's everything my bf's not. I'm going to see this guy tomorrow. And maybe even Thursday. But I know I have to get out of this relationship.

This is a relief to hear, Lexicon.

I do think you should hold off on seeing the new guy until after you've taken care of business in your current relationship. If you care about your bf and the new guy, you'll make a clean break and not involve someone else just yet. There is no hurry.

About the boyfriend, here is a checklist:
- if you are at all concerned about his reaction, have a friend, family member, or neighbor nearby to keep you safe in case he reacts badly
- give him a fair amount of time to move out -- two weeks should be enough (you ARE planning to ask him to move out, right?)
- if it's easier, have a place for YOU to move to if he won't/can't move out.
- set a deadline, prepare to explain the consequences if he doesn't comply, and stick to it

But I do think you should put the new guy on hold until the BF is out. Not only is it not fair to either one of them, but you risk turning off the new guy by getting him involved while you're dealing with drama and turmoil. If he really likes you, he'll wait.

Me and the new guy, Vic, aren't going to do anything until I get rid of my bf. I am planning on giving my bf ample time to leave, though. I'm not worried about my bf's reaction...well I am worried he'll be hurt, but otherwise I'm not worried at all.

Thank you for being so supportive, LMo. I know a lot of people will be happy to see this post!

I just can't live like this and Vic said I don't have to take his abuse...and I agree.

Lex,

I waited before I responded to this so I could gather my thoughts. But, I will say, my thoughts are still a little scattered so bare with me. LOL.

I think that coming to the decision to leave your BF takes tons of courage and strenght. I know that the two of you have your differences so ending it with him is for the best, IMO.

I just think you will be happier finding someone who accepts you for you. All of you. I wish you luck with this and please keep us posted on this.

Big squishy huggles!!!!

Thanks.

Lexi,

It sounds like you've grown, and your bf hasn't. Good for you seeing this other person. I don't have any ideas on the logistics of breaking up, but we have such a talented group on PC, I'm sure someone else will have some suggestions.

EJ

Lex, I wish you the best with this. I know it's not easy to break up with someone, but it's better to get out than stay in an unhappy relationship. Please let us know how it goes, and good luck with the new guy.

Well, I got home and told my bf I was gonna go to town to a party for women...you know a spice party...he's irate! Says I don't need to be around sex toys or lingerie and am not allowed to go.

Now I know that I cannot do what pleases me, hang out with my friends when he's not with me...any of that! He said if I go that he will look for a place of his own. I said fine and that's it. He said he was tired of everything. I asked him what that meant (hoping he'd just say it was over) and he said "I don't know."

I'm so sick of this! It's so much BS! I'm outta here and so is he! We're done!

So Lexicon -- what's happening now?