I'm confused and not sure what to do!!!

If y'all can plz let me know what y'all wpuld do that would be great!! I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years know. I'm 25 and he's 27. We have have a lot of ups and a few downs. But this past years has been crazy. I was accepted in the program at school ( collage ) in the summer. One night I was very stressed out about how I was going to pay my books. And all he seas don't worry about it. Cuz the day u graduate will be the day u get a ring!!! It shocked me. But I would go along with it. In jun came over and he needed a brake. Becose his little brother was getting married and he wanted more time with him. He also felt preshered by his family to get married. So he wanted a brake. In aug we kinda fixed things and he asked me to invite my family to the wedding to both family's can meet. I was so confused. But ok!!! Then in oct I got a really funny filling so I went to go surprise him at home one night. Long story short there was a girl there. He promises nothing went on but I'm not to sure. He is my first love. I'm very confused. I don't want to be that girl. You know!!! So what do y'all think do I stay!!! Or go!!! What would y'all do??

You should talk with him about the situation...and maybe give yourself some time to see if you really want to try and work it out and if you can trust him again...

Well that's what I'm doing know. We r on a brake tell I can figure out how I fill. I did let him know what i am not ready to get married when I graduate. He was very upset. It's been 2 months And I still can't stop thinking about it. If he really loved me then y would he hurts like this. When I ask him. He seas I'm sorry!!!

It sounds like he is wishing to control your whole life; that you are not to have any dreams or ideas for your own life. I would leave him; he has no say in when you want to get married and his comment about not needing to work/buy books because you'd be married to him is very condescending. Now, with his having another woman over during his "break", he does not sound very reliable or interested in you being your own self, living your own life.

We had the brake from jun- aug. I found the other girl there in oct. i let him know that I don't want a ring when I graduate. And I don't want kids tell he shows me that I can't truly trust him! He was so sad. But I can't get married to. A guy I can't trust.