...I'll make it short and sweet. Romantic Relationships: are they worth it? What has your experience been?

Hey Melissa,

For me my first marriage , not worth it. It was abusive, however as bad as it might have been, I learnt some very valuable lessons. Which have permitted me to be in the relationship that I am in now. We have been together for nearly 6 years and it only keeps getting better. Seriously. I think if you are in the right relationship with the right person for the right reasons it is definatly worth it.

I know the old saying " he/she completes me". My bf does not complete me, he compliments my life. He brings things to my life that I could get by just fine without. But my life is so much better enriched in having him by my side, why would I want to miss out on that. I'm pretty independent, as in I can take care of myself. But to have someone to share it all with makes it all more worthwhile, for me that is.

I wish I was a better writer so I could answer you better. I know your status from being here for a while. So I'm not quite sure how to answer but if you have any more questions, I'd love to chat with you anytime.

[Leed]

Hi -- I have to agree with Anika. Relationships are great if you are lucky enough to find the "right one" early-on. My first marriage was awful -- even tho it lasted 26 years, I was very unhappy as he was emotionally abusive. After I finally had the strength to get out, I met a WONDERFUL man who made me forget all the previously unhappy years! We married -- and although we didn't have long together (he died) I wouldn't have changed a thing.

There IS someone out there for you -- the trick is finding them. LOL Just stick to your guns as far as what your ideals go -- don't change for someone else! You're fine just as you are, and someone else will think so too! God bless & a blessed New Year! Hugs, Lee

[HannahRoseMary]

Well, I'm 17 and been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We used to get along really well - he then had to move to a diffenret country but we still coped. We were really romantic but slowly it started to fade. Now im in the depressed state where I dont know what to do with him. He wont talk to me anymore - his sister says he watches movies all day, so i've realize he doesnt come and talk to me online anymore and when he does he doesnt say hi. It's reallyy sad and i dont know what to do with him But He seems to be pretty chilled even though i explain what's been happening to me - i've gone insane that i've even tried to the point where i'm writing posts about him it's really depressing. but I know if i was with him it may of been different. It's just waiting for the right person. Good luck x

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by melissa.recovering

...I'll make it short and sweet. Romantic Relationships: are they worth it? What has your experience been?

With regard to marriage, I like to say: been there, suffered that.

[Callmebj]

Married for over 40 years with a pretty decent man. Thirty of those years were pretty doggone good. Two children to bless this relationship. Later in life he became pretty toxic and when he passed, I was left adrift and angry at his legal drug abuse. It was worth the time though; and I would not close my heart to a new healthy relationship.
Be choosey and use the God given sense you have to make a choice; don't base it on
just on attraction, but whether he would make a good husband and father.

[JLarissaDragon]

My husband is no saint. In fact he is often an arrogant ***, critical and patronizing. But he can also be caring and considerate, a great lover, and one who is willing to share my life. I choose to remain faithful to him, because of the commitment that I have made. With regard to divorce, been there and done that, It hurt so bad that I vowed never again.
No relationship is ever all good except in fairy tales. None is all bad either. I stay because, I love and forgive on a daily basis. It is the only way. All other alternatives are worse