Remember Christmas? Dale acts as though nothing untoward happened at all. I am not investing my emotions back into this relationship. I'll be a friend, at the distance that I choose. FYI xoxo pat

[wi_fighter]

I'm sorry that happened to you, Pat.

[jmo531]

Pat,

I know that this has hurt you deeply. I think that each of us have to set boundaries to keep ourselves from being hurt. I understand your reasoning for doing so here. You must protect yourself. Putting yourself first. Nothing wrong with that.

Take care.

I understand!

I remember, and I understand what youa re saying aobut setting boundaries. I'm workingon boundaries myself, and I know it isn't easy, especially when those around us want us to act as if nothing ever happened.

I have this refrain churning over. I didn't like it at first, but now I see some sense in it.

"Fool me once - shame on you.
Fool me twice - shame on me."

I'm trying to use this online first - not strong enough to do it irl, and barely managing online. But I'm working on it. Well done to you. Boundaries are important.

Take care

[CedarS]

Wise choice by a wise woman.

thanks all. i think we, as women, aren't as careful as we could be about boundaries. i'm too trusting and i an "all the way" friend. if i like you, that is it. so, as much as it has hurt me, i've withdrawn some and detached from calling about sports, etc. i just talk to the cats about the NBA and college ball.

i really miss the laughing and sharing. but life goes on.