Break in relationship

So about 4 weeks ago my girlfriend went through my phone and found out I had kissed a co-worker. Things have been rough and we have tried to work on them but it just isn't working. I got an e-mail from her today that said this....

"Sorry for writing an email. I've just never been good at talking through things, much easier for me to think about what to say when I can just write it down. Obviously since I found out about you and her things have been a little tough, or at least for me they have been. I lost my trust in you and pretty much lost my love for you. I know I said I would work on it because you swore you could make it better. But as you have seen over break and especially this last week or few days it isn't getting any better, at least that's how I feel. I don't love you anymore and it is hard for me to accept, just as I am sure it is for you. Some days over break have been better than others, but for the most part I haven't really been happy. I don't want to keep on stretching it out when I feel like this. We might be able to work on things, but we would just have to completely start over. Meaning we need to take a break for a little bit then try again in a few weeks or months or whatever it takes. But I just can't sit around unhappy anymore and I can't be happy with you there. I am probably going to stay out at selinas or my dads or wherever for the rest of the weekend. Try and enjoy the last of my break. I guess just let me know what you want to do."

I was hoping to get some advice as to what to say. I feel like a break
would be good for us but I don't believe that she is being honest in saying it.
This is the second time she has told me this and then we tried and now she is
telling me this stuff again. As far as cheating goes the girl and I kissed
but only twice. I know it's not any better because cheating is cheating.
We have an apartment together and I am assuming I would be the one to move
out. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

You won't know for sure if she means it ofcourse, only she knows. But give her the space and time she needs. Kissing twice means you done it before, and did it again...so you knew what you were doing.

Answer back how you feel, how you think about all this. Don't be harsh on her, it's really hard if someone cheated on you, if it's "only" a kiss, it doesn't feel like "only" a kiss.

Though if she says she lost your love for you, and she really means it, it would be very hard to start over since there isn't any love enough for a relationship.

I think the best thing you can do is answer her email how you feel and give her time and space and just see what happens I guess...

Roos,

I wonder if a break would really solve anything in this situation. Counseling might help if you both intend to make the relationship work. You broke her trust and you won’t earn it back unless you really have the intention to improve the relationship. The ball is also in your court, Roos.

I think time away from each other might not help for both of you to figure out what each of you really want from the relationship.

We sat down and talked about it last night. It was very emotional. I told her everything I was feeling and she told me. The break is basically putting us on hold and seeing if she is happier with or without me I guess. I asked her what the break entailed and she said she wouldn't be hooking up with guys and doing other stuff. I agreed to move out and she said she wanted my keys after I did move out and she was going to find another roommate which I thought was weird.

Her main point was that she just couldn't be living together with me and be able to work on it because of how she was feeling. That if we were going to be able to fix things then it would have to be a complete restart of our relationship and to work from there.

I would just respect that she needs space. I know you may feel it was just a kiss, she obviously takes it very seriously. So I would continue to validate her feelings, and keep apologizing from the heart. Just don't say it was no big deal as it was a huge deal to her. Send flowers.