[Rhapsody]

Does any one else have this issue with their husband or b/f? - He complains all the time about his work and how he does not like IT (wants to leave) and he complains about all the time he has to be away from home and how he wants to spend time with us (his family).... but then when he has the opportunity to take a little time off from work to be home, he seems withdrawn, distant, moody, and very unhappy.

I am often left wondering what & why? - having no clue, for he refuses to share, to let me.... I have no ideal to what he is thinking or what got him in this mood / situation.

Thanks....................

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Sabrina]

I cannot relate in terms of my husband not liking his work as he has his own business and enjoys what he does. But he does tend to be very withdrawn and often moody at home - probably because of the pressures of running the business.

I can understand your frustration at not knowing why your husband withdraws and I can certainly understand that it leaves you feeling helpless, worried, perhaps even confused.

I can't really offer any concrete advice - but you do have my understanding!

[Rhapsody]

Thanks Sabrina..............

I just HATE that I am often left outside the loop with what he is going through - and why it seems to take him away from me emotionally when it happens. BUT, I guess it is like all good things.... a roller coaster ride, with many up & downs.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[LMo]

he sounds depressed...

[Rhapsody]

YES.................... I would agree that he sound depressed (and prob is) but he is one of those men that do not feel as though counseling is for him.
He went to a T about 8 years backs, for 3 months, and has never returned since then. He keeps a lot locked up inside him.... he shares with me from time to time, but not enough to help him release it all.

LoVe,
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[Rhapsody]

P.S.

and he does NOT believe in taking medicine.... he feels as though they only hide the real problem / issue (and) he feels as though most T are quacks to a certain point.... guess that makes me a Quaker for I go to them (lol).

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[LMo]

your little "thinking" dude always cracks me up!

I used to believe the same thing about meds... I still believe it in some cases if not taken in conjunction with talk therapy, but I have completely changed my opinion after seeing my husband unable to talk in therapy because he was so stuck.

I hope that he finds some release

[desirae]

My husband does the same thing. He complains and complains about work none stop. But then he works a lot of over time, and never takes a day off...even when they tell him to.

Then when he does get his days off he lays on the couch for two days straight. I hate that. It's like he's alive at work, and dead at home. I'm sick of it, but you know....money.

Work can wear people out, more then just physically. He may just be completely pooped.