[Noellefiona]

My boyfriend, Shawn , tends to show me the side of him not caring about me or anything I say. By doing this, I could be the one to tell him a whole story or joke, and he'd response with one word or a small chuckle. Seriously? Is this how most boys act? We've been going out for 5 months and I stay putting up with it. Its getting old, and making me lonely. Not to mention the fact that he thinks I have a crush on my best friend ( a boy of course ) but I swear I don't. Lastly, I played a joke on him not too long ago saying its over and he didnt even bother to call back! How ashame. So yeah, please tell me what I could do. Thanks for anyone who gives good feedback and took the time to read this!!

[Leed]

Well, I think if it was me, I'd make that "joke" come true and I'd say goodbye for REAL. If this guy doesn't show that he cares, and you feel that he really doesn't, what's the use of staying? Who wants to be with someone who doesn't care? You can get that kind of treatment anytime! And how can you "love" someone like this?

Find someone who SHOWS you how they feel, and that feels genuine about it! Don't waste your time on this idiot. Life is too short as it is. Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee

[Unrealityfeeling]

Thats how my girlfriend acts.. when i come home from work, all i want is to be met by her eyes and a kiss.. but, no eye contact, no kiss.. i can try to kiss her, but then i feel like Im annoying. Im sitting right next to her now, why i can write this now is because she is busy being on facebook, like she is all the time when Im with her, doesnt seems like she cares at all. I hate it when they act like that, i was just saying this to let.you know, your not alone.. i wish you luck, no one deserves to be in the situation we are in

[Unrealityfeeling]

And its very importen for her that i know she loves her bed more then she loves me, that she wont let me stop.her from doing anything, and she said she is moving neither or not i like it, i can choose to join or stay here.. seems like she doesn't care at all

[LookingforCalm]

If you ever feel lonely in a relationship, then something is wrong. You're with someone who inspires you, makes you feel good, and makes you be the best you can be.

I've been in a marriage where I was lonely. It was awful. I wound up leaving because I couldn't take it anymore.

I've never understood why people take others for granted. Life and love is so terribly fleeting.

My suggestion is to walk away. If you aren't feeling it, and feel like you're putting way more into than him - then it's time to say goodbye.

My saying is and always will be this - I'd rather be alone than alone in a relationship!

[Hearty]

Hi Noelle,

How close are you to your parents? And do they know about your boyfriend? I don't know the nature of your relationship with this boy, but there are potentially irreversible scenarios which could take place. Noelle, I'm going to be frank and tell you that you're really too young to be in a relationship with a boy at 13. At your age, you should be focusing on school and surrounding yourself with friends who build you up.

My advice to you is to end it immediately and enjoy your middle school years without worrying about whether he's playing games with you or not and being lonely. I hope you're able to talk to your parents about your 5-month old "relationship," but if not, please go talk to a school counselor to help you through this. Take care, Noelle...I want the best for you.

[Switch]

Hey Noelle,

I think morningcalm has a point, but at the same time I was dating at 13 as well. I think the two things I would say to that is stay safe and take it slow, and I'd say leave this guy. Focus on your friends and stuff instead of this guy. Guys at that age (and well, any age) have usually 2 things in mind: looking good with a girl, and getting in her pants. And trust me, you don't want to be doing that now. (I have a friend who had her son in grade 9, so I've seen different sides of that)

Next, I agree with the others, that you shouldn't be with someone if they're ignoring you and stuff. That goes with friends too. Try not to date someone who doesn't also treat you the way your good friends do. Dating for the sake of having a boyfriend happens a lot lately, but I think what's important is having someone who can support you. And despite popular belief, it's okay to be single.

Good luck, and feel free to PM me if you want someone to talk to.

[Switch]

Oh yeah, and welcome to PC! There's some great stuff around, so search around. It's pretty fun here and there's a really good community and support. Post a bit in the introductions to let people know you're here.

[Gothgirl7]

My advice would be to dump him. Why waste your precious time on this person? I felt the exact same thing with my ex but let it slide. Soon after I got dumped cruelly. It's not worth it just to stay with them.

[Irreplaceable]

You've provided limited details. Have you asked him what's going on? Have you two discussed this? What does he do that makes you think that he doesn't care about you? Give examples. My response is based only off of what you wrote...

It sounds like
A) This is just the way he is. Nonchalant and aloof
B) He's not interested in you. or
C) The whole being friends with another guy doesn't sit too well with him. The fact that he said what he said about the whole crush thing, makes me think that it's either something that's on his mind, but more than likely, it bothers him. And because of that, he won't take you or the relationship seriously. Not too many guys would be ok with their SO being close friends with a guy. Too many reasons to list. Why does he think that you have a crush on him?