What am I meant to do now?

Hello, so I know this is so so long but I have absoutely no one to talk to about this and I really just wanted to write it all out. Thank you in advance if you do end up reading all this, it means a lot to me.

So I've been going out with my boyfriend for only 7 weeks. We met 3 months ago on this course at college I'm doing. It was all so sudden.. One day I didn't think anything of him and then one day me, him and some friends of ours played truth or dare (I know, childish right hah) and one of mine was to kiss him on the cheek and his was to just give me a hug and from that point onwards I just started crushing on him. Then a couple of days later he told me he liked me and then a couple of weeks after that we were going out. It was all so weird to me since he is nothing like the type of guy I thought I'd ever be with and because I've never had a boyfriend or anything.

So anyway everything was great for a couple of weeks but then he got a full time job at a restaurant and only started going into college once a week to finish off his work. So obviously I couldn't see him as much as I did at the beginning. I only really see him at college once a week on Wednesdays now. His hours are really long and he has no time to see me any other time. The problem is ever since he got this job a month ago he has barely texted me or anything. I know he's busy but I thought he would at least have 5 minutes somewhere during the day to send me a message or something. I'm starting to feel so forgotten... he messaged me left week saying that he misses me and that he has forgotten me but his actions make me wonder otherwise. Then as the weeks went on every week when he came into college to do work he would talk to me during the day less and less. Yesterday when he came into college he didn't say a word to me all day. Every week I get so upset when he comes in and but doesn't talk to me and yesterday I felt like crying.. but I couldn't go up to him and talk to him about it because I'm so scared and shy to so I ended up leaving it. I know he can get a bit shy about talking to me but this is ridiculous.

Now today another guy in my class told me that he liked me and he asked me if I would kiss him and basically have sex with him and for a brief second I seriously thought about it even though I have my boyfriend.. and I've only kissed my boyfriend like 2 or 3 times so far. I mean I wouldn't have slept with him since I'm a virgin and I don't want to lose my virginity that way but for a second I wanted to kiss him.

I like my boyfriend a lot, He has the most amazing personality and I think about him 24/7 literally. I miss him so so much.. but now I feel so guilty and I feel like the worst girlfriend in the world. I knew I probably wouldn't of kissed the other guy even if I wanted to because I could never ever cheat on my boyfriend he is too amazing. I'm not that kind of person but I feel bad for even thinking about it.

I just want me and my boyfriend to be talking again and I want to be able to see him again but now I really feel like I don't deserve him and that I should break up with him. I'm just this quiet girl that doesn't speak much. He could be with someone so much better than me.

Anyway what I really wanted to ask was am I a bad girlfriend? All this relationship stuff is new to me and I'm just so confused right now. I haven't known this guy for long but I feel so attached to him already and I don't want to lose him.

Also what do I do about the whole not speaking to each other situation? I don't know how to go about sorting it out. I'm really really shy around him so going up to him and just asking him why he's ignoring me is just near enough impossible.

You will need to build up the courage to say something to him. He needs to explain to you why he's not speaking to you. There is a reason why and you deserve an explanation. He may have lost interest or met another girl but he needs to not lead you on and be straight forward with you. If he refuses to explain it then I suggest moving on.

Hi ~ I agree with Scotty. You deserve some kind of explanation. This isn't really a "relationship" the way that it is right now. He's acting like a jerk. He could at LEAST talk to you.

As for the other guy, don't even THINK about going to bed with this dope! How dare he say something like that to you! You're not that kind of girl. And DON'T become that kind of girl either! Guys really don't want "that" kind of girl -- they just USE those kind, and then drop them.

If your current boyfriend doesn't have time to have a talk, then I'd suggest that you move on. Find a guy that DOES have time for you. You deserve better than this, sweetie. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

"I'm starting to feel so forgotten... he messaged me left week saying that he misses me and that he has forgotten me but his actions make me wonder otherwise."

Your typos make me think you have a self esteem problem rather than a problem with his behavior; you feel left out, you feel forgotten; it's not that he has left you out or forgotten you; you should have your own life taking up the majority of your thought, time, and energy.

It is not his job to make you feel better by using his thought (Have you told him you'd like a text, if possible each day? He cannot read your mind), time (he's very busy if he's working in a restaurant and may not even have/be allowed to have his phone on him), energy (he may have a 15 minute break for himself and you want to "claim" some of that? He needs to relax from the job, eat, get revived himself for his work, not spend more energy making you feel better?).

Ah well I found out the reason why he isn't talking to me. I messaged him yesterday and asked him why he isn't talking to me anymore and he said someone told him about me hanging out with some other guys the other day.

Basically after college one day 3 of my friends in the class.. two girls and her boyfriend asked me if I wanted to come to the park with them which I did.. and then while we were there 2 other guys I'd never met that were friends with the guy from my class came to hang out with us too. Then after a while the 2 girls left and I was left with the boys. I decided to stay with them since I never get the chance to go out anymore and they all seemed nice.

I didn't realise it would upset him.. I only wanted people to hang out with since I've spent so long on my own and I didn't want to waste an oppotunity to make friends. He should know that I only like him and I'd never do anything with anyone else. :/ I'm messaging him to apologise but I don't know what else to do now.. I've messed everything up.

You did nothing wrong by hanging out trust me he don't own you. I think he's a jealous type by the sounds of it and those people are not good take it from me I had a jealous GF once and it was BAD.

Hmm I guess I understand where he's coming from since I'm can get quite jealous myself.. I just wouldn't have reacted the way he did if it was the other way around..

Ask him if he talks to girls. If his answer is yes then you should be like "Why am I nlt allowed to talk to boys?" it's not like you're cheating on him with them. You're socializing and there's nothing wrong with that. And you should sit down and talk to him seriously. Ask him if he's serious about the relationship. And I'm sure he can make time for you. A text to remind you he loves you isn't going to hurt him.

Some people play games to fill a void. You are right to feel disregarded, but seem to lack self-esteem. A confident woman, who felt the guy was missing out, would not wait nearly that long to move on. Take care of you. Sure, there will be compromises in relationships when it comes to understanding and accepting personalities, but this is at the very beginning when first impressions mean a lot. I would not light a candle in the window for someone like this person.

Try not to worrie to much about this.

I'm trying not to

How is it going? Hope you are feeling a bit better.