[whiteroses40]

I was having a conversation with my husband the other day about his indicisiveness about life. He seems stuck and can't get out of his own head. He tried to explain to me what he was feeling but I just starred at him with a blank look. I didn't know what he was trying to tell me. I need help translating this example he gave me. He said that he feels like a "monkey who has his hand in a jar of candy. He grabs the candy but is unable to remove his clenched fist through the opening of the jar." I love my hubby but I was unable to understand this dilemma. If anyone out there knows man talk and can decipher this above example of what he is feeling don't hesitate in expressing what he is getting at. Man talk is just as hard to comprehend as women talk.

Thank you all.

Whiteroses

i just wanted to stop by and give you hugs.. i think it's awesome you are reaching out for help for you hubby, and i hope you receive the help also. it's so hard when ones we love are going through a struggle themselves, sounds like he needs some help , have you talked to him about going to therapy? maybe together you two can lean on each other and get the help you both need.

it was good to see you in chat yesterday and i hope you come back for support anytime you feel you need to.

hugs and i hope you and your hubby feel better soon.

sorry i cannot decipher the message , as it could mean many things to people but your hubby probably would be the best to talk to at this point .

hugs

[Trippin2.0]

Hello whiteroses. I don't speak metaphor either, but couldn't stand seeing your post go unanswered. Metaphor is my brother's 1st language...
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He says to him it means so close, yet so far.
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Hope that helps. XOXO

[Leed]

Hi Whiteroses ~ Man talk is indeed a dilemma! It's like listening to German when you only talk French!

This is ONLY my take on it, but it sounds like he knows what he needs to do, but hasn't go a clue how to go about it. I don't know if it's job related, or what -- but that's how I take it.

I sure wish men would talk English. LOL But I guess we women sometimes talk a different language too at times.

Best of luck dearheart -- and I hope things go well for you two. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[xraydiva09]

um lol.....sorry but the whole monkey metaphor thing made me giggle....of course I have a mental pic of a monkey with its hand stuck in a jar.....ok sorry....Im not laughing at your problem, it just conjured up a funny pic in my head....
To me it sounds like he is just having alot going on in his head....like maybe he gets something figured out, but then something else gets in the way? But without the whole monkey thing lol.....Yea some people's metaphors are something else to say the least....best of luck into getting to the bottom of this "monkey" business

[Perna]

The opening of the jar allows the monkey to place his hand in, but when he tries to withdraw it, he is unable to do so without letting go of the contents of the jar. Believe it or not, some monkeys will stay there with their hand in the jar until the hunter comes back to trap them! They are trapped because they are unwilling to let go of something they are doing which is working against them.

From: http://sellgrandrapidshomes.wordpres...y-the-peanuts/

Your husband doesn't know about any hunters, but he does know he can't get whatever he wants that is in the jar (and doesn't know how to "unwant" it or let it go temporarily so he can go at it some other way). He's got that candy in his hand!

What one "has" seems okay whereas making a choice means letting go of something in order to get something and, not being able to see beyond where one is now, it looks like a loss of some sort. So, your husband continues to pretend he has candy.

[whiteroses40]

Thank you all. I'm glad that I'm not the only one puzzled by his explanation and I've had moments where I think about that poor monkey with his hand in the jar and not being able to bring the candy out so he could have some. I even pictured my husband's head on the monkey and laughed histerically. We will be going to see a counselor so that maybe someone else can shed some light on this monkey business.

Originally Posted by xraydiva09

um lol.....sorry but the whole monkey metaphor thing made me giggle....of course I have a mental pic of a monkey with its hand stuck in a jar.....ok sorry....Im not laughing at your problem, it just conjured up a funny pic in my head....
To me it sounds like he is just having alot going on in his head....like maybe he gets something figured out, but then something else gets in the way? But without the whole monkey thing lol.....Yea some people's metaphors are something else to say the least....best of luck into getting to the bottom of this "monkey" business