[nevergiveup8]

I went out with friends from my high school tonight and they drilled me with questions about my college life. I froze up because I am ashamed of the fact that I have not been able to make even one close friend over the two years I have been in college. I left early and just broke down as soon as I got in my car and was alone. I'm so tired of being alone. Why am I in this position? Can't I catch a break?

[Leed]

It's totally different in college than it was in high school. In high school, things are "closer." The school normally isn't as large, and most of the time the kids all know each other. In college, everyone comes from all different places, and no one has a clue who anyone else is. It can be overwhelming -- and if you're just the least bit shy, it can be very difficult to make new friends.

I'm sure you must have a "roomie." Perhaps you can start hanging with them a bit? Maybe meet some of their friends? If that's not possible, start talking to others in some of your classes -- just small talk about the professor, or the class, etc. Or if you're in the library maybe you could start a conversation there. Ask someone to have some coffee or a soda, or something. It's worth a try. I know that being alone is no fun. It just takes some effort and some guts.

Best of luck and God bless. Keep us posted, will ya? Hugs, Lee

[nevergiveup8]

I am actually a transfer student. I had an extremely bad freshmen year and I think it just threw me off. I am now at a school that is a much better fit for me. The first semester of this year, I lived in the dorms and had a nice roommate. Unfortunately, she decided to move into an apartment with her best friend and I decided to just move home. I am very friendly with my peers and have met a lot of nice people but have difficulty turning those people into close friends. I have pretty severe trust issues and an extremely low self esteem, especially because my face, which was always clear throughout high school, has been broken out all year. I just can't connect with people and part of me doesn't even want to. On top of everything, I do not drink, which has definitely set me apart from the majority of college students I know. Please, anyone who has been through something similar or has any advice to give... help me out. I woke up this morning in a daze and I feel sick to my stomach because I'm just so alone.