[Serenityfate]

I'm in a 5 year relationship in which I've been feeling unhappy lately. By accident recently I've met a person online who, I'm pretty sure, is my soulmate. The connection we had instantly, few experiences with dreams and just due to the fact we literally read each others minds. We haven't been talking for long at all and already I feel like I've known him since past life. All the things in common and ability to connect spiritually to another person is rare connection to find. I've had dreams about him since young age just never understood before. Problem is, I'm with a boyfriend of almost 6 years, and I do care, truly I don't think I love him or ever did. Also fact that my soulmate is far far away. United states and he's in uk. He has expressed his feelings towards me, he feels the same. The heart beats faster, almost out of breath, smile Everytime we talk, and every second I'm awake we can't stop thinking of each other, in our dreams we meet as well. I know this sounds almost crazy to an extent, but can't get rid of the facts and feelings. It upsets me knowing that I might never be able to meet him and right now stuck between a rock and hard place. Do I leave my partner I'm with now and attempt to meet my soulmate? Do I cut off contact with soulmate and save myself the heart break? I know if I do that I will be emotionally in pain, for he already told me he loves me. Or do I leave it as it is and see where it goes? How do I know for sure he's my soulmate? I've had a share of relationships and I have never felt like this towards anyone, feel complete. One thing that really made me think is my soulmates grandmother, only been talkin for little over a month with him and she told me that she's letting him go and that I'll be everything he ever wished and wanted, saying she's sending me a gift, her dead daughter's pendant. Apperetnly I deserve to wear it... Things are so clear but yet I'm so confused! Please help, in need of advise and opinions.

[Leed]

Well, obviously, you have been unhappy in your relationship cause you don't "accidently" meet someone online -- you're LOOKING for people to meet. Lets be honest here. LOL It's too bad you've spent so long with this person, only to end up unhappy.

BUT how feasible is it to actually meet this soulmate in the UK?? Do you think you will really be able to swing it? Are either of you willing to pick up and move to another country for good? It MIGHT be giving up citizenship (unless you can retain dual citizenship, I don't know). How important IS citizenship to both of you? And what about parents/family? Would either of you be willing to leave all your family & friends? It's mighty expensive to travel back & forth to visit. What about emergencies? There's all kinds of things to consider.

I'm NOT saying you should stay in your unhappy relationship. You deserve to be happy. But I'm saying you had better think long and hard before you either pick up and go to the UK to live or ask him to come here. It could cause LOTS of big problems in the long-run. But you two will have to figure that out. I wish you the very best in whatever you decide.

Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee

[missbelle]

Remember people are not all what they seem online. Its easy to lie, lie, lie! Ask some specific questions of this so-called soul mate and then do some research on your computer or have someone help you. You are falling in love with a dream of who your soul mate is, and this person is reeling you in hook, line and sinker maybe. Be careful!

As missbelle says, please be very cautious with your online friend - online friendships can be very positive experiences but also very intense, it's easy to get carried away very quickly. He may be genuine, but it's impossible to really truly *know* him - when we communicate online it's very easy to show only a certain side of ourselves.

Your relationship with your boyfriend of 6 years is a real life one, it's not comparable. If you aren't happy with him then only you can decide if you want to leave, but if you are only wanting to leave to be with your online friend then I would advise caution.

Best wishes whatever you decide to do.

[Perna]

I do not think you can be "in love" with a person you have only met online; you can be attracted to a person, but love takes being with and getting to know a person in person. Otherwise my soul mate would be several book characters I can name instead of my husband :-) Feelings are not all that are part of love, "to love" is a verb and you haven't any action experiences with it yet in relation to this person to know what's what.

Only you can decide if you'd like to leave one relationship to pursue another. I do not see any benefit to staying in a relationship where you are no longer interested in being there, just because of a time period. If you have no children or other people depending on you, I would discuss your current relationship with your current partner and create a plan to move out and then pursue whatever you decided interested you.

[NinaNina]

I'm not sure what advice to give in regards to who you met online. But I think whether you pursue anything with him or not, what you should really focus on first is the relationship you're in now.

If your not happy in your current relationship and haven't been for a while, you need to really think about if you should continue to be with this person whether you are pursuing your soul mate or not.

Last summer, my ex and I ended a three year relationship. I had been unhappy in the relationship for about a year, but could never bring myself to end it because I did still care about him and I didn't want to hurt him. Eventually, he ended up realizing that I didn't love him, and he left me. It still hurt, and it was still hard, but now I am with someone who I love more and am more happy with than I ever was with my ex.

I guess what I'm saying is if your truly unhappy, you should rethink the relationship. This is not to say it will be easy. And I don't think you should base your decision on whether you think anything will happen with the person you met online- because either way you deserve to be happy, and even if nothing happens with the person online, you should be with someone who makes you happy

[faerie_moon_x]

When I was 20 I met a guy and married him after dating for 3 months. We were together for five years and had a child. I didn't love him, and over those five years I grew to hate him. I was not happy at all.

When I was 25 I met someone new who lived 900 miles away in another state. I divorced my ex-husband, lost my son, my home, and pretty much everything and started a life with the man who is now my husband. I would have said then that he was the love of my life and still is, despite the rocky relationship we've had recently.

Now I'm 32 and I wouldn't go back with my ex-husband, but I wish I had done things differently. I believe it was Karma that caused my son to be taken from me, which was the most traumatic thing to happen to me.

If you have no children involved, I say it will be much easier to end the relationship. But first examin why, and is there no chance of reconciliation, and if not it is better to be honest move on than to stay and continue to break someone's heart.

I hate to be negative, but I am going to be for just a second (which is totally contrary to what my T and I have been working on), but I feel as if I am old enough and have enough life experience to share this tidbit...

if it sounds too good to be true, it is.

(1) please please be cautious. There are many scam artists out there who will do and/or say anything to meet their agenda. I don't mean to rain on your parade but think about it. Really.

Now after you've pondered the above for a bit (keeping yourself safe and protected) ...now comes the reminder of the responsible, kind, caring, loving, human being that you are:

(2) it's clear you are not happy in your current relationship. perhaps you should focus on getting out of that one first and getting yourself together before pursuing another relationship. Getting out of a relationship is hard enough but ...

...put yourself in your SO's shoes and ask yourself how you would feel if he did that to you?

Good luck. Please be safe. Let us know how you are doing.

[Open Eyes]

I agree totally with madisgram. I also had a friend that had rekindled an old relationship on line and on the phone. She was soaked in the love of what could be and she beamed with delight. This man and her met for a weekend and he still woed her and then he stopped and broke her heart. She had been used to living on her own after a long ago divorce and this man presented her with a new hope of a love she had always missed. She would even make excuses for him, she was in love with idea of love and SHE WAS HURT BADLY.

Just because someone can seem to connect and be your soul mate on line, doesn't mean that person in reality can be that actual soul mate. Never allow yourself to lose site of that REALITY.

Open Eyes