I went out with some people again last night, and i just find i have nothing to say . . .

Also, wherever I am, whatever the group, i tend to be on the periphery, not really saying anything, or belonging.

It's hard to explain, but when I'm with company they tend to almost forget me and move off without warning. I think this is because I don't talk and thus I'm easy to forget. I'm left just trying not to be left behind, so other people in the vicinity can't tell I'm not really part of the group. It's embarassing, really.

[Leed]

Don't feel bad -- I call myself "invisible" cause that's how I feel most of the time if I'm with a group. Seems like they always talked about things i have no experience in, like college. I never went to college -- I'm just a high school graduate. My folks didn't have the money for college and i didn't have good enough grades for scholarships, grants, etc. Plus they'd talk about all the places they've been -- heck, I'm lucky if I got 30 miles from home. LOL So how do you add to conversations like that? LOL

I found that I'm better off on a one-on-one situation or at the most with two other people that I know WELL. That way I don't get left out, and I feel more comfortable.

I'm sorry you had a bad evening. I've had plenty of them but I'm not going to put myself in that situation anymore. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

[Moodysmood]

I think you're better than I am. I will wander into a room where I don't know anyone and immediately drift toward the nearest wall or chair by the wall. I don't really go out in groups but I used to and I did feel like I was just part of everything else going on. Not really having any unnecessary conversation.

I have started to strike up conversations with people who have that same lost expression as me and talk to them. Not everybody shows up to somewhere already having a group or significant other to cling to. I believe it is just finding someone who is willing to keep your interest. If you're just going out to be out or because you'd feel bad for your group who wants you to come with them, then your mind is already set on not participating.

Is there an interest group you can join up with so you already have something to mutually discuss? A meetup or something like this? I think in the right environment you'd really be great to talk to. I don't know you and you interest me... I know this is nothing coming from me, but I mean that.

Originally Posted by Moodysmood

Is there an interest group you can join up with so you already have something to mutually discuss? A meetup or something like this? I think in the right environment you'd really be great to talk to. I don't know you and you interest me... I know this is nothing coming from me, but I mean that.

I don't have any hobbies or anything . . . maybe bike riding? I don't know.

Thanks for finding me interesting.