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I recently got back with my husband after being separated for 2years. One of the main reasons I left was because he was so needy and selfish of my time. He seemed to be so jealous of my time spent with friends, family, or even self so, I limited it. When I talked to him and sometimes cried about it, he just didn't get it...He would say I need my time. I must mention, though, there werren't problems if I was spending time with his family.

As a result, after having been away fom my kids (including new grandbaby), and not being able to fully enjoy them prior to initial break up, I look forward to seeing them regularly. I've moved back to town and live within walking distance. Unfortuanately, there seems to always be tension in the air when my husband comes home and there are visitors. No, it isn't every day but several times a week. I would love to fully laugh and enjoy family with him but it just isn't happening.

I am so ready to leave him again. I feel trapped and limited.

Sure he works and is dedicated to me. No he doesn't hang out at night or curse me. ... I say this because so many women settle for that only.

We have fun when we go out but just sitting at home, its often boring. Conversation most always often involves his work. We don't play games because he doesn't do well with competition-getting beat. He relaxes more if he drinks but one too many and I can't stand him.

We talk pretty much all day in and out because our work schedules allow so when we get home there isn't too much more to talk about.

Help!!!!!!!!!!! I am really ready to be alone.

[Leed]

How long have you two been married? How old are your children? Are they grown?

Have you tried marriage counseling? It would seem a terrible injustice to just throw years away without trying everything you can to save this marriage -- unless you just don't LOVE him anymore. Besides being somewhat needy, he sounds like a nice guy! He provides for you, doesn't abuse you, doesn't run around on you, and is "dedicated" to you. Sounds like you're bored.

Why not just develop some of your own interests? A hobby, an aerobics class, etc. Or maybe you and your husband can find something you both are interested in that you could do together. Maybe you're just not communicating -- counseling can help with that too.

I wish you the best. I hope there's an answer to this other than divorce. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee