[BleedingDestruction]

Well, I need an opinion.

I may have made a mistake, but here's some background. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. We're both fifteen. I love him, and I know without out a doubt in my mind that he loves me.

Well, last night we were flirting over Skype and it kinda got to the point where it was sexting. I said that I was wearing this really short dress, and if I bent over he could see everything. And uh, I was. I told him it was too bad he was at his friend's house or I could show him. Somehow, we ended up video chatting and I showed him my breasts and sent him some pictures of me just in my underwear. I kinda started it all, and I don't feel guilty, but the logical part in my head tells me I should feel really bad. It's leaving me desperately confused, and I don't know where to go from here.

[Leed]

You're playing with fire here. Do you know that he could send that all over the place, for anyone/everyone to see? NEVER do that. It's VERY DANGEROUS!!! You have no idea who might get or see that.

The "net" is NOT a safe place, sweetie. It doesn't matter if you're talking to your best friend, boyfriend, or whoever. It's NOT safe.

Not only that, but you're sending a bad "signal" to this guy, telling him that you might be "easy." Do you want him to think you're a skank? I don't think so. Your reputation can be ruined in just one "chat."

Don't do it again, hon. Be careful from now on. You're too young to be playing "games" like this. if you keep playing these games, you'll end up an unwed mother. You really DON'T want that. God bless & be GOOD. Hugs, Lee

What Leed said.

Remember Scarlett Johansson? She was sending photos of herself to her boyfriend over the phone and they were leaked all over the world.

I'm not saying this will happen to you, but it's better not to risk it, with anyone, let alone with a 15 year old boy.

[lynn P.]

I'm a mom of an almost 15 yr old and I hear about everything young people at her school are doing. First of all - some/many young men are anxious to see naked pics and even more anxious to brag about it. I tell you one story of a girl in grade 8 that happened. She was a popular girl from a good family - lived in a upper middle class area, mom a 4th grade teacher and dad owed his own insurance company. The 13 yr old daughter sent pornographic rated pics to a boy at school. He received them on his Xbox that had wireless on his 51 inch TV when another boy was over. He then sent them to all his friends and they did the same. Next day every boy at the school were huddled in groups at recess laughing. Someone tipped off the school and the police were called - this was child pornography. Several boys and the girl, along with their parents were interviewed by the police and lucky for them they were given the choice -- either be charged or go to counseling. Their computers were confiscated - who knows if all traces were found.

Even if this boy does love you, he may still send it or show it to someone else. If you ever break up, he could try to use that as a way to bully you. You run the risk of being talked about. If he wants to very nasty or does send it to someone else, it could end up anywhere to give pleasure to who knows. Personally I value myself too much to let a naked pic of me circulate to unknown places. One teenager I saw on a morning show had pics of herself in a bikini (she's busty) on facebook - someone in Poland copied her pic and put it on a porn chat site for advertising. I'm telling you this so you can learn from the lessons of others.

[Jan1212]

I know you don't know any better because there's nobody to teach you about these things at your age. You are going to feel scared after you've just done this that's why your'e posting here. a 15 year old's mind can change from this to that so quickly and the consequence aspect is lacking, it is not smart to trust a 15 y/o with your nude pictures , it's not smart to trust anyone with nude pics. There needs to be self respect and dignity, for your own sake and to avoid possible serious future problems that could pop up out of nowhere.

When I was younger I did what you did thru skype with my ex of two years but he was older and we both were 'so in love' apparently. I also felt it was wrong but I just did it and I completely regret it it's horrible how we have such low self-esteem to get some jerk happy it's horrible because once things start to go wrong, he will use it as blackmail and nowadays things can get out unintentionally

I know you are looking for acceptance and be wanted but doing this action could hurt you even more

[lido78]

Originally Posted by BleedingDestruction

Well, I need an opinion.

I may have made a mistake, but here's some background. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. We're both fifteen. I love him, and I know without out a doubt in my mind that he loves me.

Well, last night we were flirting over Skype and it kinda got to the point where it was sexting. I said that I was wearing this really short dress, and if I bent over he could see everything. And uh, I was. I told him it was too bad he was at his friend's house or I could show him. Somehow, we ended up video chatting and I showed him my breasts and sent him some pictures of me just in my underwear. I kinda started it all, and I don't feel guilty, but the logical part in my head tells me I should feel really bad. It's leaving me desperately confused, and I don't know where to go from here.

I think your instincts are telling you that what happened was a mistake. Since it cannot be undone, please just make sure you take more care the next time you consider sending pictures of yourself over the internet. I'm sure that you just got carried away, but the consequences are not worth it...and there is NEVER any reason to feel as if you have to prove yourself in this respect to anyone (i.e., to your boyfriend or your friends). Even if you started it, you may have been feeling the need to show yourself as a "free and relaxed wild child." But, as your post shows, this just isn't you...and it would be very dangerous even if it were you. So, just request that your boyfriend respect you enough to keep the images private and, better yet, to delete them from his computer. If they do get out and around school, try to keep your calm. You could simply respond with "Yes, those were supposed to be private" and try to move on to the next subject. I'm sure it will be really embarrassing, but try to play it cool...if any friends or schoolmates don't see you as vulnerable to teasing, they will likely leave you alone.