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I have been married for 12 years he has lead me to think that we were working together he tells all his friends that our marriage was a lie that we are not married that I am no good I am a total loser at every that I am a bad mother and a terrible wife.

I'm so sorry to hear that you are dealing with this. It sounds like he is being almost verbally abusive calling you a loser and such. You don't deserve that hun. 12 years or not, maybe it's time to call it and move on. Hang in there

What kind of 'friends' are these that they'd tell you such things? How does your husband really treat you? Is he abusive? Did you ever suspect he felt like this? It doesn't SOUND like it.

I think I'd ASK my husband about this, and see if this is the way he REALLY feels -- or if his "friends" are just trying to cause trouble. If you never suspected he felt this way, he must be a good actor! Sit him down and have a talk! You need to know the truth.

God bless & best of luck. Hugs, Lee

the best thing to do is to talk to each other and find the truth. friends lucky ones get true friends do you trust then more than your husband so as to begin to have doubts???
a marriage shouldn't get the involvment of third parties never. you are adults thats y u r married. so act like adults.

I have nothing I rely on my husband for everything,i have been unemployed for 3 years. he make ot clear that he don't need me.he make feel worthless and i'm starting to believe him. he's saying that I can't take care of a husband,i can't cook,and i can't take care of the kids I hear that if him everyday when he comes home from a bad day out or at work. I have no one to talk too or anywhere to go. I can't step out, I can't talk to anyone and he has to be the one to make all the decision.