My girlfriend cheated on me.

I've never done this kinda thing before. So bear with me. I was dating this woman for a year and a half. She admitted to cheating on me Sunday, the day after it happened and said it was only the one time. I believe her and I also believe that she is genuinely sorry. She want us to work through and still be together in the end. I would like that as well but the image of her being with someone else always seems to enter my mind and I get angry with her about it. I don't know how to get past it and stop picturing her like that with someone else and I don't know what to do about it.

I think what you're thinking/feeling is understandable. It would definitely take me longer than 5 days to even process and accept much less begin to make a decision about what to do. I don't know how long it might take to get over the shock and stop picturing that happening. A long time. This is something that is going to take a lot of time and effort. I don't really have any advice. I think that there are decisions you have to make and then work hard to accept what happened and rebuild the relationship or... begin the process of getting over it and moving on. I wish you well.

Hi first let me say i'm sorry that your in such a bad situation, big hug Next i just have a few questions that you'll need to ask yourself and answer very honestly (not to me, but yourself). If you were watching this happen to a friend, family member or in a film what would your reaction, advise be ? Is there an underly reason/problem in your relationship for this indiscrestion to happen ? And are you staying in the relationship because you don't want to be alone ? You really need to take the time to let yourself process how your feeling etc. Oh and i've been told going into the forest and beating on a tree can help vent some of your pent up anger. That or my mothers old favourite beat the hell out of your pillows. Good luck and positive thoughts

BDP gave you some good questions to think over. Personally, I think cheating stinks, and I would be hard pressed to trust the person again. They would have to work HARD to get me to trust them like I did before !!! I'd want to know WHY they cheated in the first place. What was lacking in the relationship that they felt they had to cheat?

After a year and a half, I would think that there would be some kind of committment in this relationship, but evidently she doesn't feel as committed as you do. I think I'd have a long talk with her or else end it. Doesn't sound like this is going to be a "forever" thing to me. God Bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

sorry this happened to you! my first reaction is to get tested for stds. my second reaction is, well, once a cheat always a cheat. personally I couldn't get over that. there is someone out there that will love you through and through, love you so much that cheating would never cross their mind. good luck with what you decide. it's a tough road regardless of what you choose to do--I really wished she hadn't done this.

I'm so sorry this happened to you- I know how it feels and its terrible feeling. All I can say is that if you are willing to move on with the relationship, it is going to be very hard and will likely cause continuous problems down the road. I'm not saying don't do it or that it will be impossible to get over, but it will be hard. You will likely have a lot of trust issues going forward and that can be very hard to deal with. I wish you all the best in this

I understand how you feel. I found out a few weeks ago that the same was happening to me. I ended it immediately. It sucks.

But I admire your tenacity in trying to work past it. It is something I could not do.

Please bear in mind this will take time. You and her both need to understand that you are going to need time to repair what was broken. Her apologizing and you accepting her apology is not a magic cure. It is only a step.

Keep in mind BDP's questions, and be patient with yourself. I wish you my best.

Sorry to hear that. Its a common emotion when 1 is cheated on. In rder for it to work you both must want it. If help is needed goin to a counselor might help. Good luck to you :-)

Cheating is the worst possible thing anyone can do to someone, it distroys people. I am so sorry you are feeling like this, you will be angry for a long time but believe me it gets better. My partner of six years cheated on me too after a while she begged me to get back with her and I stupidly I believed everything she told me...I wanted to believe she was sorry and had changed but she didn't, she did the very same thing again to me. It broke my heart but it does get better, and BPD has some very good qeustions you need to ask yourself, especially are you staying because you don't want to be lonely, this is torture for you. I wish you all the best and remember to take care of yourself x