[ba.ll.oo.n]

So, here's how it goes. Most of the time I try to avoid dating and relationships because it wreaks havoc on my mind (possible BPD). And my feelings. But - life would be too easy if we managed to stick to our resolutions, right?

So I have this longtime friend with whom I spent quite a lot of time these past two weeks - we went camping and swimming, etc. He said he wanted to go on vacation some time in summer near my usual vacation spot and if I wanted to go too. I did.

Few days ago we jumped into bed with each other and it was amazing. I decided I was going on vacation this weekend, if he wanted to come too. He said he'd like to go a bit sooner as he'd have to work over the week. Next day we flirted like crazy over drinks with friends. I went home, feeling too tired to bar crawl with them and he sent me a good night text. Perfect, I thought. I gave him lots of space and managed to contain myself (and boy was that hard) - he always asked me out, I didn't come to him first. So I thought it might become something more.

Yesterday I just sent him a text asking if he was coming as I wanted to plan my weekend. He hasn't replied still - for a day and a half. So now my mind is all over the place thinking up reasons why he would suddenly ignore me. Does he hate me? Did I say something I shouldn't have? Did he meet another girl? What's going on? And so forth and so forth. The insecurity hurts.

[Leed]

Well, he did say he had to work over the next week -- possibly he's at work already. He didn't say exactly WHEN he was starting work, did he? Maybe that's where he is, and when he gets out, he's just too tired, or else he's going out somewhere and doesn't have time. Yeah, I know --- that hurts.

Try not to obsess about it. I'm sure he'll get in contact with you sooner or later. In the meantime, keep yourself busy with something. But try not to think about him all the time. I wish you the best. You have a challenge ahead of you. Godbless. Hugs, Lee

[missbelle]

You know I have no idea.....guys are funny animals and we can try and figure what is going on in their brain but we can never know....Maybe he thought about it and wanted to cool it, maybe he is busy...although never too busy for one little text.......You may never know unless he tells you, and that may not even be an honest answer or then maybe it will.
I am sorry you are going bonkers. I cannot give you any more advice then what you have heard or thought. There is no sense in you going nuts about it either. Either it happens or it does not....and then if not maybe it was never meant to be for you...maybe there is much more coming, and if he gets back to you......well, one day at a time......I know it definately is hard when you begin a relationship because you NEVER know what the heck is going on!!

Well if you want to share again...let us know what happens so we can call him a jerk or a nice guy...whatever!!

[ba.ll.oo.n]

Thank you for your responses.

He texted he had to be at work all weekend (no lie, he has that kind of job) and would make it up to me after I get back to town.