[crazylife]

If you read my last post i decided against being friends or any contact with her again but i'm starting to regret it, i miss her although she acted badly i still miss her does it get any easier ... below is my previous post about this. I denied the facebook request but left it pending, didn't realise it did that now i have a reminder and i cant seem to make myself comfortable with my descion. I'm not sure life is better without her it's less complicated but more lonely.

I fell out with my best mate a few months ago and she nearly ruined my life! I had a breakdown around her and another mate, cut myself really bad and spent a week up hospital after that but the aftermath was even worse, she called my jobs and told them i was unfit to be working there! She turned most of my other friends against me and i ended up paranoid! After her pushing for me to tell her why i needed therapy for my ex i told her a little and she went off and asked him and he almost killed me!
I cut all contact and since life has been lonely but better i guess and i just woke up to find a friend request on facebook, i don't know what to do i'm one for not holding a grudge and forgive and forget but i just don't know what to do, hoping you guys can help me! I have no T for 19 days so i can't ask him i don't want to fall into a trap or cause more trouble. What do you think?

[CastlesInTheAir]

I know this is a friendship and not a relationship but I have learned that for better or worse it is just as hard to leave as it is to be left.....I am not sure how much time has passed since all this has happend but I do know you can't just simply pick up where you left off when it was all good...what happend needs to be addressed in regards to your and your "ex best mates" feelings in regards to the situation...if you can't find common ground then it is probably best to leave each other alone....

hugs and best wishes....

well, the ultimate decision of course is up to you, but if I were in your shoes, I'd hang on in there with keeping away. It doesnt sound like much of a friend, who seems to be fairly meddling and destructive towards you.

Over the years, I have found that friendships can be like any relationship - people change, situations change and sometimes there is little in common anymore, other than a history together. Its hard to move on, but sometimes its for the best. Feeling lonely is just the adjustment period, and to be expected too - the same as finishing a romance. It does get better and if you can manage to get yourself out with other friends and have a good time, it can help.

I wish you all the best with whatever you decide - just be happy and be with people who make you happy. Life's too short for anything else!!