Was it so bad that I had stood up for myself?

I got into a big fight with my bestfriend because she said that I make things bigger than they need to be. She saids that I play the victim role. I was offended when someone at a company was rude to me by giving me bad customer services and when I had asked him for his manager's phone number he ended up giving me a phone sex number. I called an attorney to ask if there are any rights of mine that I should know about because this guy had treated me so poorly and I was offended. My friend ask me why did I have to take it to the next level by calling the attorney. I felt that I wanted to know my legal rights and wanting to stand up for myself.

A doctor of mine that i was seeing for my seizures was very rude to me. I had accidently used the wrong term in explaining something, he had jumped down my throat and even before allowing myself to correct myself, which was what I was about to do, he took a couple of minutes lecturing me. As I was trying to have him understand my conditions he wasn't being responsive. I now don't feel comfortable to be under this doctors care and now asking for a different doctor. My friend said that I shouldn't have to expect a doctor to be my theripist and to talk and treat me the way I want and that I'm asking too much from the doctor. I told her that if someone doesn't get a comfortable vibe from their doctor regardless the situation, that paitent shouldn't have to put up with that doctor and have the right to see a doctor that does make them feel comfortable.

Today I had met up with an old friend for lunch, her name is Athena. As I was about to drop off Athena at her house I see that her ex-girlfriend's car is parked infront of the house. This exgf has a reputation of being very jealous and controlling and I knew that if she saw me she would cause alot of trouble. I told my friend Athena that I'm going have to drop her off at the corner because I don't want to deal with her crazy exgf and I'm just very uncomfortable to be around her. As I was about to drive off, the exgf is following me in her own car and tailgating me. she attempted to go around my driver side to see who I was. This was going on for at least 10-15 minutes. i was scared out of my mind. I decided to make a police report for the harrassment. My bestfriend tells me that I had made it into such a big deal by going to the police. I felt that I was in a unsafe situation and wanting to stand up for myself.

Why is that I feel my bestfriend is giving me this impression that I'm a drama queen. Do I not have the right to stand up for myself when someone gave me a phone number to a sex line, when I had asked for the company's number, do I not have the right to be comfortable with a doctor and wanting to see a different one, when I feel unsafe do I not have the right to make a legal complaint? My bestfriend said that I play the victim. How am I playing the victim when I'm standing up for myself and not allowing people to step all over me? I'm just so upset with my bestfriend that I told her that I couldnt talk to her anymore and hung up on her.

Tell me what do you think?

Hi Jennifer

From what you explained, it sounds like you made some good decisions, with good thinking, in these situations.

Could it be that your g/f's personality is just much different than yours and just wouldn't have made the same choices of self-care? If so, it doesn't mean that she should disrespect you because she doesn't understand these actions.

I wish you well with this.

KD

Jennifer, I don't think you were unreasonable in any of those situations. The only one I'd have done anything different is the first one, which I'll explain after this paragraph. But yes, if you're uncomfortable with your doctor, get another. No, he's not a therapist, but there is such a thing as a "good beside manner," and if a doctor makes you feel uncomfortable, you don't have to stay with him/her. And if someone is harassing or stalking you, yes, go to the police!

In the first situation, you said the customer service agent gave you a phone sex number!!! My next step would have been to call back in hopes of getting a different customer service agent (or, if possible, choosing another option, like sales), and asking for a manager from that person. But if attempts to reach someone of authority didn't work, I'd ask an attorney for advice. When you call a company, it's a good idea to take note of the name(s) of person(s) you speak with. Usually, they introduce themselves first, but do ask if they don't, or if you didn't catch it, and write it down. The person you spoke with was way out of line, and should be fired. Most companies wouldn't tolerate it. Contact the company, even through writing, and make sure they know of your dissatisfaction.