Losing My Temper...

My mother in law is STILL living with me and driving me friggen INSANE. I cannot stand another minute of her and her selfish ways. I try to keep my cool and not lose my temper. But today I did. I told her just what I think about her and that I want her out of my house AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. She's lucky I didn't set her stuff outside in the yard. Get this... we were talking about her not paying anything to live here and she had enough nerve to tell me. " Well, YOU don't contribute any money to the house either!" Can you BELIEVE she said that!!??! And then when I got mad about that and was giving her a piece of my mind, she told me to shut up and go to bed!!! Arghhh!!!!!!!! I am SOOOOO FRIGGEN ANGRY right now!!!!!!!! I DO contribute to this household. I raise 3 children, keep the house clean and laundry done, and I do all the cooking. GEEZ!!!!!!

She knows how to yank your chain. Don't let her get between you and hubby. Also, sometimes we can take people's power away by walking away when they make no sense as her comments were nonsense. You can write a fiction about how to get rid of a mil. Get your fantasies out there. You might want to rent MONSTER IN LAW. It is hysterical.

Don't stoop to her level okay? She sounds off and it's really not your problem.

Yes, she does know which buttons to push.

I definitely do not blame you for losing your cool. It's about time she realized that it was not her home and she had no right to say what she did because it is so far from the truth!

(((((Jenn)))))

she told you to go to bed? oh my gosh!! I would be more than angry!

What does your husband do and say? You're his wife, and it's his mother, so he should be supporting you and speaking to his mother. He should insist she respect you and not insult you. He should expect her to pay rent.

Yes, you do support your household, caring for the children and taking care of the house. But I wouldn't care if you didn't. It's your home and your husband's, and it's not hers. You two get to make the rules, even if she doesn't like them and thinks they're unfair. Your husband should tell her that if she doesn't pay rent, she needs to find another place. For that matter, she needs to find another place, period.

A couple of things I recommend is that you don't cook, clean or do laundry for her. It may seem easier to do it and avoid further conflict, but you need some control over the situation. If your husband supports you like he should, he won't do it for her, either. At the very least, let her do those things for herself. She isn't paying rent or buying food, so force her to contribute. Or maybe she'll go out to eat, and you'll have a few minutes of peace.

Make some rules and stick to them.

a very long, long time ago, i had the mother in law from hell also. i had a toddler and was pregnant with our second child. this woman never lifted a hand to help me do anything but was always ready to tell me what she thought. i waddled to the church one day and talked to our beloved priest. he told me to say this, "you may be right" and then walk off. she almost lost her mind over that. you aren't agreeing and you're walking away from the argument. in fact, you didn't even argue.

you have a much, much worse situation than i did. at least mine didn't live in my house. you've gotten really good advice and i say that it's time to give her her walking papers.

and for those nosy questions that people ask..Ann Landers taught me this. they say, "why are you eating that ice cream?" and you say, "why do you ask?" that ends it or they pass out from embarrassment.

good luck and get moving on getting her out of there. love, pat

get rid of her! Shes cruel