[Lyndsey]

is he a sociopath or a narcissistic or sadist or just selfish

We started out as a very happy couple he gave me everything I wanted but then he slowly took away my needs in the relationship example he took away us going on dates,he took away time alone together and he stopped kissing me.I asked him why he said he didn't like those kind of things no more but stay with him.Then he was an hour late meeting up and I was waiting for him in the cold and rain.Then when he turned up he acted like I did not exist I got fed up so I shouted at him.I said sorry to him then he said it was ok. Then he meet up with me and refused to hold my hand he said everything was my fault it was in front of his friends.He could not forigve me for shouting at him he ignored me for 4 weeks then he came back telling me how bad he felt and was being really nice to me and said he wanted to kiss me,sleep with me and that he regreted how bad he treated me.So like an idot I thought things where going to get better.Then out of the blue he said I do not want to be with you kiss you or sleep with you that will a worthless thing to do.
I called him a liar then he igorned me for 3 weeks and then came back saying how sorry he was and how he would never do it again I belived him again becuase he promised me that he wouldnt do it again.I met up with him and his freinds and he was acting like where a couple then when we got alone together he said we are just freinds but we could do couple things and he told me that his heart didnt belong to anyone else.Then he choose not to see me for 7 weeks I could not cope with the pain.When I did meet up with him after 7 weeks.He said no kissing or holding hands where freinds thats the first thing he said and he said theirs better looking women out their for him.I accepted it and then he layed on me.He said lets go somonewhere private then he took his top off in the cold weather.Then he said you could stroke my chest like an idot I did it because I wanted to block out the pain he cause the best way I can and I know I was stupid.Then he walked me to my bus stop and said if I get a girlfreind you will be jealous and heartbroken.Then when the bus came he stared at me in an evil way.Then we did have the same group of friends and he excluded me from the group of his friends and gave me the evil smile again.He got his friends to watch what I was doing while he was not seeing me for ages and the silent treatment.he is also exculding me from his social group is well.
do you think he is a socio path or a narcissistic or is he just selfish please answer

[Leed]

Who CARES what HE is -- why on earth are YOU putting up with this kind of treatment!!! He leaves you, he comes back, he leaves you, you take him back, so on and so on. YOu keep taking him back after he ABUSES YOU. Why on earth do you do this?

If someone is being abused, like YOU ARE, they should get RID of the guy, and look for someone else who will treat them with respect and dignity! This guy is using and abusing you for his own pleasure. He does NOT love you, and who CARES what his diagnosis is? You don't NEED him.

Find someone else. This guy is toxic and bad news. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[Yoda]

I think he is a jerk. He doesn't treat you kindly now and I doubt he ever will.

Tell him goodbye and wish him well but please don't waste any more of your life on him.

[unaluna]

I agree, I would worry more about your diagnosis than his. he is the cat and you are just one of many mice he plays with. the mouse ALWAYS loses.

[lynn P.]

I agree with the others. Don't waste one more second on this awful man. Cut off all communication with him. He'll only hurt you.

Well there's no future in any "relationship" with that man, so you might as well cut your losses and not waste any more time on him. He will probably try and win you back again, but you'll have to resist it from now on.

[Zenster]

He is probably a cluster b because that tends to underly toxic abusive people...but it doesn't matter in the end because he won't change. In fact, he doesn't think he has a problem and his treatment of you will only get worse.

I am sad for you - you do not deserve to be treated this way. He has abused you and that's not ok.

Cut all contact with him and work on rebuilding you. Get his voice out of your head by focusing on your truth, your talent and goodness. Waiting for him to change or see the light is a waste of time.

" is he a socio path or a narcissistic or sadist or just selfish"

All of the above.

Seriously, please get rid of this toxic man. He's playing with you, he's cruel. He knows that you've been weakened, because he's done it, and knows he'll get away with any behaviour as he's worn you down, and you now let him. I bet you wouldnt have put up with this had he done it from the start.

Please talk to friends, family, a therapist - get the strength to get out of this relationship. Dont be shocked tho if he comes back if you dump him, promising the earth - it will be part of the game tho, and his ego wont want you to be the one to walk away. Its all part of abuser's games - I've been there.

Stay strong, look after yourself, and find someone who treats you as equal, not a fool.

Hugs

[dailyhealing]

I can't diagnose him, but can certainly say he is mean and have a few other words I might use to describe him if I were talking to you in person...

I agree with all of the above, get out of there. He doesn't deserve you, and you deserve to be in a real relationship. He does have trouble no doubt, but that is his problem. If he is not working on it on his own, which he clearly isn't, then he's not likely to anytime soon.

If you need support in moving forward I hope you will seek it here! I don't see any way that staying with him can lead to anything but trouble and pain for you!

[IamNothing]

The guy is a creep. Get rid of him. It sounds like this guy is using you and also being sociopathic. I would get out. It doesn't sound like he has hey our best interest in mind.

Hi Lyndsey - i think the diagnosis is unimportant, what you need to question is why you are willing to stay with someone so abusive and disrespectful. This man cares not a jot for you or your feelings so i would cut off all contact, speak to a therapist to work on your self esteem issues and focus on what you want from life. There are many people out there who im sure are far more deserving of your love. You owe it to yourself to not let this man control you any longer. Good luck.

[Jannaku]

Before I even scrolled down to read other members' comments my mind was saying who give's a **** what he this guy is BAD!! There is absolutely no point wasting any of your precious energy trying to diagnose what this person has. The bottom line is that his behaviour is disgusting, hurtful and most definitely not normal. Get him out of your life now and don't spend one minute regretting what you have done. Just remember to give him that evil grin as you head off into the sunset. All the best.