friendship or more?

i really like my friend Ashley at school. She's bi, so am i although, she has a boyfriend who she broke up with but is now back with even though he treats her badly. As her friend, i feel horrible for her what he's doing. But also, for me too. lol. Were pretty good friends, were always eating lunch together and hanging out during school and on the phone, etc. Anyways, i think at least were always flirting with eachother. She always compliments me on how pretty or 'gorgeous' i look almost every day of the school week. Were always going to the deli before school starts, smoke cigg. and talk about our nights. We always laugh, go to the bathroom together and lunch haha..yeh i know, odd. But it seems like were getting closer now. I'm starting to grow more and more onto her. I just love being around her constantly, she actually makes me happy. heh.
If she eventually breaks up with her boyfriend, which she might, should i go out with her?? i mean, i dont want to loose a friendship either, but we can always stay as friends if anything afterwards, right???

debs.

If you like her, and she likes you, I think it's worth a shot for a romantic relationship. There are always risks...you have to decide if romance is worth the risk of losing a friendship. If you're lucky, even if the romance doesn't work out, you'll still have the friendship. Good luck.

If it doesn't work out between her and her bf, then I think you should go for it if she feels the same way about you. It never would hurt to ask.

The downfall is that there is a big risk of losing the friendship you have. People always say they'll be your friend if things don't work out but truthfully the relationship is never the same as it once was. You see, you'll have that friendship, but also the feelings, resentments, etc. that you had in the relationship. And then one or the other may still have strong feelings for the other.

Like with my ex, we are still friends, but it's nothing near what it was. I'm still in love with her, and can get quite possessive at times and very jealous of her other relationships. We've both moved on in life but that doesn't mean I don't get overly jealous of the people she's interested in. Needless to say we are farther apart now than we ever were.

I would write her a card and tell her how she sends you to good places. Caution, though, she might not be where you are, ready to go deeper. Think about her maturity and if she could handle it right now. Maybe you could get together with her later on when the two of you are more grown. Think about planning a better time to become intimate instead of doing it too radical. That way it will mean more to both of ya if it is really special to you both. The more we wait for special things the better it gets. Let her know in special ways your affection, being creative with this and seeing her getting creative with her showing affection. It is fun. Having fun is the key anyway because that is the essence of all loving-fun.