[mztwizler]

ahh i dont knwo where to begin, but im jsut going to get it out how it comes.... Which is my bf is like holding me back....he doesnt want me to do anything and is totally not outgoing...i wanted to ravel.. now i have a kid by him ..and i mean anything is possible.. like this one college has a family apartments on campus..and is only a few hours away..and he can tranfers up there.. he told me he wanted to travel, but it must have been a lie.. i can do anything! thats just one.. but i dont know what to do?... i love him and kind of but really dont want to break up with him!?!?!...but im too outgoing for this %#@&#!..all he perfers to do is sit around and play video games?... what to do? AHHHHH

[Maven]

Does he work? You two have a kid, so he needs to be bringing in some money. You say he plays video games all the time? Does he spend any time with you? Is it enough? It sounds like he's not being responsible.

You say he doesn't want you to do anything. Do you mean work, go to college, or something else? He doesn't have to want you to do anything. You do what you need to do for you and your child.

I understand you don't want to break up, but if he doesn't grow up and treat you and the child right, you've got to do what you need to do without him.

BUT...make sure he pays child support if you do leave him. That's for your child, and he is required to pay it. If he's ordered to pay it and doesn't, take him back to court.

You can't make him change. He has to do it himself. He has a family now, and he needs to be a man. You can only do what is best for you and your child.

i'm sorry that you're having such a hard time right now. how old is your child?

i know that it's frustrating to feel that your life is at a standstill. is it possible for you to take any classes where you live? do you get out at all? a part-time job perhaps?

if you could find someone to talk to, a minister, a therapist, a friend........someone IRL that you know and trust...i believe that would give you some comfort also. keep us posted. xoxoxo pat