[xXSkitty KittyXx]

This is what was sent to me by my ex boyfriend Alex ... this is unedited, and was sent right after I said no to going back out with him....btw he had already said bad things about my dead boyfriend and about my mental problems... this is the definition of disrespect and a jerk....

"im sorry i sayed whats wrong but you sayed nothing a whole bunch of times you know what forget it if you cant understand how much i love you and that i know i made a mistake and i apologized for it but yet you still think im going to lie and cheat your a jerk a lot of people think i deserve a second chance with you and that you made a mistake and that a boyfriend making a mistake comes with having boyfriend but nope you still want to act like you never had feelings for that person i hate you with a passion and i hope that you tell cory everything i said because believe it or not he also thinks you made a mistake dumping me so you can screw off"

[littlemssunshine]

Whoa!!! Not okay. You have your reasons for not returning to him, and he needs to respect that. It sounds like he hasn't changed a bit, if he has only nasty things to say. Good for you for staying true to yourself and doing what's right for you. Don't let his words hurt you or bring you down. You will find someone beautiful you loves you for you and only treats you with kindness.

[xXSkitty KittyXx]

He is definately in the wrong.... I have major depression, am very suicidal, have schizoaffective bipolar disorder, anxiety disorder, and abandonment problems.... and LOTS of trust issues..... I cant believe a boy would ever say anything like that to a woman

[littlemssunshine]

Without knowing him, I would say that he may be dealing with some major insecurities of his own. He needs to accept that you have moved on and don't want him in your life. That's okay and a really healthy decision on your part. I hope that he reaches a place in his life where he accepts that what he did was not okay and can apologize to you while truly meaning it. Your health is the most important thing right now, and although it's unfortunate that he doesn't realize that, it is crucial that you keep your energy focused on getting better. Keep your head up, and stay strong!

[oceancries]

Ah Jennah. You don't deserve that kind of treatment! I hope karma bites him hard.

[Sam2]

Originally Posted by xXSkitty KittyXx

This is what was sent to me by my ex boyfriend Alex Peters... this is unedited, and was sent right after I said no to going back out with him....btw he had already said bad things about my dead boyfriend and about my mental problems... this is the definition of disrespect and a jerk....

"im sorry i sayed whats wrong but you sayed nothing a whole bunch of times you know what forget it if you cant understand how much i love you and that i know i made a mistake and i apologized for it but yet you still think im going to lie and cheat your a jerk a lot of people think i deserve a second chance with you and that you made a mistake and that a boyfriend making a mistake comes with having boyfriend but nope you still want to act like you never had feelings for that person i hate you with a passion and i hope that you tell cory everything i said because believe it or not he also thinks you made a mistake dumping me so you can screw off"

When you enter into a relationship with someone (meaning a romantic relationship), you exchange a lot of information. Some of it good, some bad. You also usually tell them what things bother you the most. When you do that, you are entrusting them with your heart.

Because that person now knows what will hurt you the most, they have an obligation to keep that trust and treat it with respect. There are certain things that you just don't say to someone if you care about them. You don't use what you know about that person when you have a disagreement or even if you break up. Immature people tend to push those buttons on purpose to get an edge in a disagreement, or in a breakup because they are just out to hurt you.

Its difficult to do, but try not to let it get to you. Don't open e-mails from him or answer his calls. If he really cared for you, either now or ever, he wouldn't use the things he knows that will hurt you the most to get back at you.

Sam2

[eskielover]

I think you made the right choice dumping a jerk like that.....no mistakes on your part...you saw him for what he really is....stay strong in that ability & don't get pressured of pushed around emotionally by guys.......& you will survive dating.....& life.

[Harley47]

Well, my absolute first impression was that you probably shouldn't have used his full name (though there are 100's of thousands of Alex ). Then I read the rest of it. I rather hope he finds it stapled to his resume one day.

I am sorry you had to suffer through such an inconsiderate (your word here), but you made a very mature and wise choice in kicking him to the curb. Ignore whatever else he may throw your way, and go about your life. You're all the better for him not being in it.

wwll aside from the part that he definitely deserved being dumping for the disrespect, he is extremely immature and doesn't know what the heck he's talking about. In the first part of his short, rude message to you insulting you more than whatever he said before, he first says "if you cant understand how much i love you..." Then goes on to bash you some more and ends up saying " i hate you with a passion" Which is it? Come on, you can love and then hate someone with in the same paragraph? Ugh he's not even worth the energy it took to copy and paste his message hun. I'm glad you dumped him. what a nub. (sorry, but that's the best word and cleanest one I could use here haha)

[sorter]

Never disrespect a woman, or a man, or a dog, or any animal.
Never bad mouth someone in a public forum and use their real name (I hope that's not his real name).
Never try to feel better about yourself by being as big of a jerk as someone was to you.

In other words, you're not very experienced at this relationship thing are you?
It's easy to be upset at that kind of behavior until you do the same thing down the road with someone else.
Here's the deal. Relationships can make anyone crazy. Even you.

HE was a jerk and it DOES sound like he has some issues of his own, but the English teacher side of me HAS to say more. Don't take this wrong...

If you ever talk to him again, tell him to go back to school and learn how to capitalize and learn basic punctuation. Mistakes don't bother me, it happens....but NONE AT ALL!! Grr....

Originally Posted by Maranara

HE was a jerk and it DOES sound like he has some issues of his own, but the English teacher side of me HAS to say more. Don't take this wrong...

If you ever talk to him again, tell him to go back to school and learn how to capitalize and learn basic punctuation. Mistakes don't bother me, it happens....but NONE AT ALL!! Grr....

I felt the same way but just wasn't compelled to actually say anything about it. LOL *hug*

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

I felt the same way but just wasn't compelled to actually say anything about it. LOL *hug*

My innate impulsiveness is actually good for something now and then.

[oceancries]

^^ I wanted to say something about the boy's horrid spelling too haha.

[xXSkitty KittyXx]

No that's not his real name, I took the first and last names from two of my friends that I was talike to at the time. I also do not think that this post was anywhere near as bad as what he done to me. The people on here judging me badly for posting this obviously don't know compassion and understanding. Have you never been in a situation like this before? Really?

[roads]

Excellent advice, sorter.Looking forward to hearing a lot more from you as you post more widely.
Welcome to PsychCentral. If there's anything I can do to held you settle in, please let me know.
Roadie

[Harley47]

I am so sorry to hear about your boyfriend who took his own life...I know that must've been awful for you. I hope now, at the very least, he is at peace.

[Anika.]

I am sorry about your loss. I am sorry you had this as your next experience. It sounds as though he is very angry not just hurt. Hopefully he can work through that. And I hope you can come to peace with this, it's hard to know what to do with a lashing like that. Just remember it isn't yours. You don't have to keep the words with you. What I think is that usually when someone reacts with this level of hostility or anger, it really isn't all about the other person (you).. some of that anger could have been around for a long time and have nothing to do with you, but when it comes out, it comes out all at once.. which ever direction it is pointing.

[bebop]

Let me remind you all this is first and foremost a peer to peer support site. Please take the arguing off here or face the thread being closed.

[sabby]

To add to bebop's request, the posts arguing between the members have been removed at this time. Please remember that calling out one another when you don't agree with what another says is considered unsupportive and is against our guidelines. If you feel there is something posted against guidelines, please use the "report post" icon and let the team know about it so that we may deal with the issue and in that way, someone's thread does not get hijacked with pot shots taken at one another when all the OP is looking for is support.

Thanks for understanding!