[Maven]

We've all looked up exes, old friends, old enemies (from high school, for example), family we never talk to anymore, etc., right? Well, I looked for pics of the boyfriend who decided to smack me around one day. I found some, and it brought back some memories. Why didn't I go to the police?

It also makes me sick that he looks much the same, maybe a little fatter, and definitely older, while I'm not only older, but obese. I did note that the links that came up in Google about him said he's a professor now, and looking at the reviews on RateMyProfessors.com (or something like that), students say he grades by how well he likes you. If he likes you, you'll pass. If not, you won't, and he expects you to study word-for-word certain texts. So, it still sounds like he's an a-hole.

Anyone else done this?

[gimmeice]

I have looked up old exes, with all the social networking available it is just too hard not to in some cases. In one instance I have actually started being friends with one of them and his wife, though I think out of the two I like his wife better, lol.

When I see an ex that brings back bad memories I take a moment to be thankful that I left that situation. Every relationship I have been in has taught me a lesson of sorts that helped shape the person I am today. Sounds like you are much better of without professor jerk.

[Maven]

Originally Posted by gimmeice

Sounds like you are much better of without professor jerk.

Most definitely. My current boyfriend of many years has never once raised a hand to me and, while he has his flaws (as I do), I wouldn't trade him for any of my past boyfriends (not that there's many, unless you count the celebrity fantasy boyfriends I've had, LOL!).

[Emotionally Dead]

I used to do it all the time. I only have one ex that I never got over. I have pictures of her and I but I never look at them, because it hurts too much. I also never look for her or try to see how her life is going, because it is all just too much for me. I do look up other ex's and people from my past and sometimes it bothers me to see how happy they seem to be and how unhappy I am. I know I should be happy for them, but most of them have hurt me in some form. I guess I should move on and forgive, but it still is tough. I haven't done any looking up lately because I have realized it is better for me to look to the future and not at the past. Wish you the best during this difficult time.

Sometimes I look up my two ex F's because it reminds me of really happy times. It is bittersweet, of course, but I spent the best years of my life with them.

I cancelled my FB accout, though, because I am not really interested in knowing about those peoples lives (we all grew up together). I was taught to be gracious to everyone and always be pleasant and put on a happy face, but most of them, I never really liked. Or even knew for that matter. Most of them were snobby, horrible, selfish people...not much has changed in 20+ years.