[hamster-bamster]

free, preferably, but would consider well-recommended, well-reviewed paid sites as well as a maybe

thanks

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

free, preferably, but would consider well-recommended, well-reviewed paid sites as well as a maybe

thanks

I have yet to Use or hear of any that are really worth it either paid for or not. I would be interested to hear results too.

[huntergirl64]

I was on plenty of fish, actually met my boyfriend on there. You have to be cautious, and weed out the liars and cheats, but I've also made friends on there as well.

I tried e-harmony, didn't have a lot of luck on there, but my neighbor did.

i personally havon't done the dating thing.

but i've heard a lot of good stuff about match.com and E-Harmony

and their was 1 called avenues.. but not sure if that's still going

As far as I can tell from my experiences with dating websites, all of them are trash, and I have used lots of them without success. I am a moderator on OKCupid.com, and I have used POF, Match.com, Metrodate, more than I can remember, and have never had success in meeting or chatting with a single woman that liked me. E-Harmony looked promising, but it rejected me because my personality is unmatchable, go figure.

The issue I find with online dating is not with the services themselves but that it appears to always be the same kind of individuals that use them. Searching through Match.com will lead to the same results that POF or OKCupid have; indeed, I have read through so many of them that I have noticed the descriptions are identical. I don't know if this is a consequence of living in a society that disapproves of differences and desires uniformity, or if it's the same kind of individuals that use these services, or maybe fake profiles.

Overall I don't find dating websites to be useful to me. The only major benefit is that when I am rejected, it is online, and thus is easier to deal with.

[hamster-bamster]

But if not online how would I find people these days? I thought that online dating is what everyone is doing, no?

In the past I never had a problem, there were always guys. But now I feel that I need some exposure.

OkCupid is my favourite site because it provides pretty good matches like eHarmony but they don't require money or that you be "normal" to be a member... I just think it's disrespectful that anyone who doesn't present themselves as the typical white picket-fence yuppie Christians is excluded from a chance at finding a mate!! And if you're on the slightly kinky side, Fetlife.com is a nice one. Another free site, but since I don't know what your tastes are, I thought I'd include it.

[hamster-bamster]

Would that be for fetishes? No, I am conventional (so far), but thanks for thinking of every possible scenario for me. This is not the first time OkCupid is mentioned and it is free, so I will be sure to sign up.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Mr. Venomous

I am a moderator on OKCupid.com

what do you mean? It is a dating site, not a forum, no?

[Scotty204]

I personally never used any online sites but I have a co-worker that used plenty of fish and he said it was terrible and full of liars and cheaters so a word of warning if you do decide to enter into the online dating world please use caution. I'm sure there are decent people using them but I think the bad ones outnumber the good ones.

True, Scotty, but that can be said for anyone anywhere. I'd always caution against taking anyone at face-value, no matter where you meet them. Even if it's in a church or at a fundraiser for a children's hospital! Hahahaha, but maybe that's taking it too far.

[hamster-bamster]

So, buyer beware, basically, right?

[hamster-bamster]

So I signed up for OkCupid and got instant dates. So, yes, it definitely works, thank you. Cannot tell yet what will follow from all this, but at least on the surface, the site works.

Hah, that's awesome!! Glad that seemed to work out for you so quick. Just make sure to answer a whole bunch of questions about your values/beliefs so you can find someone on a similar wavelength. Happy trails!

[hamster-bamster]

Oh, those questions, they are addictive!

But the most surprising thing... I have been wanting to branch out of the usual white male stuff (I am white, from Europe) and meet East Indian males but I did not mention it in the profile and STILL I get messages from Indian men and they do look cute. Prayers answered. It is amazing.

I signed up for OkCupid and have been there for a bit. I have yet to see it give me ANY matches that are women I'd be interested in even talking to. Quiver stinks in making matches and this, after I've answered over 500 questions there! But I don't think it's that OKCupid sucks so much as the dating site scene itself is just too unnatural. I think the best way is the one way I shy away from meeting women. That is through real life and even if online, just through everyday conversation. I think when you go on an online dating site it's just too forced. I think everyone there is trying way too hard to meet their match. Not that it can never work but that it's few and far between. Anyway just my take... I'm still on it but don't expect much from it anymore.

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

what do you mean? It is a dating site, not a forum, no?

All the more reason to have moderators. You wouldn't believe the amount of sexual harassment and really horrible things users have said and/or done to each other there. Dating websites might be fun and exciting, but beneath the surface they're messy places!

It might not be a forum but that doesn't mean there aren't rules. Someone has to police the website. Don't worry, I can't browse people's inboxes, but if something is reported, it is sent to me, among many moderators to deal with. However, I also have to watch out for fake profiles, scams, and photos that don't adhere to the guidelines.

Ironic, isn't it, that the OKCupid developers find that I am trustworthy enough to be a moderator but no woman on the website that I have found finds me worthy enough to talk to.

[Livebythesea]

During one of my separations I signed up for OKCupid and Plenty Of Fish. I preferred POF and met a wonderful guy right away but it ended abruptly after spending nearly every day of 2 months together as he needed to move to take care of his kids when he learned their stepfather was physically and verbally abusing his ex and the kids. My H and I again tried to work things out shortly after...but I may be back on soon

[Chynnadoll2855]

Pof is the best site!

[hamster-bamster]

Is POF paid or free?

[Livebythesea]

It's free!

I have a POF account too but haven't gone far enough to actually finish my profile lol. I guess it doesn't need to be said that I have had no results there huh?! maybe I'll try after all.

[hamster-bamster]

Right now I cannot keep up with Okcupid so I have not yet opened a POF account. I will do things one step at a time, trying not to get overwhelmed. I thought I would love the attention - you know, attention from several males at once is always pleasant, etc. was what I thought, but I get tired of jumping from one chat window to the next. That is why I am not rushing with POF.