[Monty_girl]

My husband is a smart person, but is has a lot of problems believing in himself. He's 33 and a student at a local univerisity majoring in TV production. He has a degree in sound engineering also from a tech school. He's almost finished now with only 3 semesters left. Last week a professor of his sent him an email about a job at one of the local TV stations. He thought about it and made a copy of his resume. He also has to have copies of his production work. He didn't think he had enough to show them for a job and decided he shouldn't do it. Well today another professor sent him an email of the same job saying he should apply for it. So he called me and said I think this is a sign I should try for this job. I told him to go for it. How do you help someone with low self-esteem have confidence in them selves??? As I said he's very smart and makes straight A's without even studing. I don't think he takes me serious when I tell him he's smart because I'm his wife. I wish I could make him see what a great person is truely is.

Lisa

[Raynaadi]

I think just supporting any decision he makes is really all you can do. Hopefully he'll go for the job, and when he gets it, that will make him understand why his professors saw enough in him to send him the emails. It's tough being in the wife/friend/family position with someone who has confidence issues. They're just gonna think we're being nice because we have to. I went through that a few months back when I started hanging out with a group of people, I thought they were just being nice. It wasn't until I felt I really belonged that I understood that I'm a good fun person, and why wouldn't they want to hang out with me? But I had to experience it for myself to understand it. Sending good thoughts for hubby and the job!

[Monty_girl]

Yeah that's it. He thinks I'm saying this to him because I'm "suppose to". I hope he gets the job so that he can build self confidence.

[Raynaadi]

Yeah, sounds like that would help alot.

[Maven]

You can help by doing what you're doing, offering support and giving him deserved compliments, but it's really up to him, because he needs to change his thinking. Maybe you could leave him an inspirational quote somewhere he'll find it each day.

MG, you're such a supportive person here that i feel that your support at home is "sinking" in......sometimes a person has to just tentatively stick their foot out for that first step and then it becomes easier to "offer" talent, gifts, etc.

it's most impressive that the two professors e.mailed him about the job. they definitely see his potential and realize that he would be a good candidate for the job.

you're a good wife. love, pat

[Monty_girl]

Thank You Pat,

Sometimes I feel like I'm running around in a big circle.