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Apr 12, 2012, 03:47 PM
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So while my guy friend and I were hanging out, he had kissed me good night on my lips. And I didnt feel the "spark", is this a sign that we arent meant to be?
It was kind of a surprise, but he did he tell me he was gonna kiss me. I just didnt know it was gonna happen at that moment. And we've been friends for 7 months now. And he knows that I really like him. And that was our first kiss on the lips! |
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Apr 12, 2012, 05:33 PM
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No, it doesn''t mean you "aren't meant to be."
 It takes a LOT of time to get to know a person. You don't fall in love immediately. It's a slow, slow process. If you DID fall in love immediately, it wouldn't last. That's not the kind of "love" that lasts a long time. That's just lust. Real love is a learning process -- it comes from knowing each others good & bad sides; knowing each others likes & dislikes; it comes from sharing each other secrets, plus loads of other things. And if you get thru all that and STILL care for each other then you probably love each other.  Take care. Hugs, Lee |
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Apr 12, 2012, 05:49 PM
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There are different types of love. The firey love you see in movies or t.v. only lasts a short time. It flares up and burns out right away. If the love is real, then there will be a smolder that remains, and it must be tended and cared for all the time or it can burn out too.
Love is a natural thing, but staying together is not magic. It is something both people must be in agreement on.
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#4
Apr 12, 2012, 06:02 PM
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Quote:
 Hes the first person and last person I talk to everyday! Although I fall asleep talking to him
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Apr 12, 2012, 06:12 PM
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Apr 12, 2012, 06:13 PM
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So basically its not a bad thing that I didnt feel that "spark"?
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#7
Apr 12, 2012, 07:59 PM
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Sometimes it takes practice kissing before you get sparks.
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| Ladyzero, Open Eyes
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#8
Apr 12, 2012, 08:17 PM
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The "spark" is kinda an oversimplification: a movie trope that only represents a very limited version of real Love. If you like him, can talk to him, and he likes you back...you're GOLDEN
Enjoy it! congrats
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Apr 12, 2012, 08:30 PM
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11Shooting Stars,
Well, sparks didn't fly when my husband kissed me, he was not a good kisser to be honest. But he was warm, kind, gentle and we talked alot and enjoyed each other's company. The kissing needed work, but he improved and became a much better kisser. Give it some time, no, it is not really like the movies. And a guy can be a good kisser and lousey at everything else. So don't worry if that is all that is holding you in wonder. Open Eyes |
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Dec 26, 2012, 05:08 PM
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Keep kissing that's how people fall in love. Goggle it. iT'S FACT.
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Dec 28, 2012, 04:02 PM
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It sounds like he caught you a little unexpectedly too when you stated he said he told you he would kiss you but you just "didn't know it would be right in that moment" Well a kiss like that, that happens so surprisingly, is not going to be the same as in the moment when your eyes meet, you both move in and then kiss. When that happens there's something that's already happening romantically and both of you are in tune with each other and "ready" so to speak. You weren't ready for it and it doesn't even sound like your mind was in the moment. It's understandable that you didn't feel a spark that time. It's more like he kissed you rather than you were kissing each other.
Nothing to worry about at all. There will come a time when you'll kiss and it will be great, I'm sure of it. You sound like you are enjoying each other a lot and it'll happen *hugs*
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Dec 28, 2012, 10:32 PM
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No, only time will tell. Sometimes connecting on an emotional level is stronger than a physical level.
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