[urock]

I'm confused what to do about an old friend/boyfriend. He was single and looking for me back in 2007 couldn't find me(I moved out of state and married). He remarried in 2009. I devorced and contacted him recently he is still married. He was miserable when we first spoke but is now so happy now that I found him. As am I. He wants to be with me but says he doesn't want to lose everything and have to start all over at our age. Which I can understand. Says us being together will happen "it will happen" We do have a special bond/connection that can not be put into words. example all of the years I was gone and he was looking for me He was in my dreams and I knew he was looking for me. In the past I have moved and not told him I was moving and he'd show up on my door.
Should I have a wait and see attitude? HE's told me it's our destiny and we need to write a book about our love story. I know he is sincere about how he feels about me. If his marrige ends (divorce) not due to me would our marrige be doomed? I am cross country from him. says he wants to come visit me. Please give me your honest opinion. Thanks.

[Leed]

I suppose if it's meant to be, it will be. But PLEASE don't do anything to ruin his marriage. If you do, your relationship WILL be doomed.

You may have to wait years -- but if it's to be, it will be. If it's not, it won't.

I'm not sure I'd waste my life on that ~ you only are given ONE life to live. Do you want to spend it alone? I'd think about that. You may just end up all alone if you wait for him.

God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[Doingmybest]

urock,

I believe you two have a connection but he is married and as a married woman I would suggest you no longer contact him. If his marriage is destined to end in divorce let it not be because you interfered. If he loves you he should be honest with his wife instead of leading her on... This is a difficult situation...and I want you to know I am NOT judging you. you sound sincere in your concerns and you made your feelings clear to him. He now has a choice to make...let that choice be his but don't wait around, in the mean time go on with your life. If it's meant to be it will happen.