[SomeGuy7]

Hi,

I'm in my 20s and i've been in a pretty much perfect relationship with this girl for 5 years: She is never jelous, doesn't stop me seeing friends, a successful doctor and is really beautiful, however, I recently met another girl (waitress) only for like 2 days in France who is kind of my dream girl, primarily looks, lifestyle and sexually. We hung out and she feels the same.

I'm really thinking of leaving my girlfriend and country to be with this other girl. It seems crazy but just feel much more strongly about her.

Anyone had any experience or analysis on this..?

[katya093]

wow , um well you have been with your current girl for almost
what 5 years ?
however the heart goes where it goes and you can't control that.
I have never experienced anything like this
but i would talk to the NEW girl and ask
what she wants in a relationship
you said you like dhow your gf now lets u hang with friends etc , will the new girl allow that or be some what controlling ?
and if it is a go and
she means what she says and you like the answers
really think about if it is worth it to move to a different COUNTRY lol .
and if you wont feel bad at all when you do , how this will affect you job wise family etc. leaving ur current girl ??
then after that i would confront your gf now
and say , " we need to talk i met someone else "

[SomeGuy7]

Thank you for the reply. It's kind of messed up because I would love to move to France but my family etc would disapprove.

Sounds like a huge mistake! Knowing someone for two days, you have a wonderful life ahead of you with your girlfriend, you are betting against better judgement. It sounds like the excitement of a new person is what you are infatuated with, but the new will wear off and the old will shine through my friend. But what is youth for except to make decisions like this before you are married. Be careful my friend! Look before you leap.

[Leed]

I think you'd better really THINK about this. ARe you really willing to give up your COUNTRY and your current girlfriend after these 5 years, just for a girl that you THINK is your "dreamgirl?" Aren't you being a little immature?

Do you really think this feeling is going to last? These kind of feelings never do. They're almost like a fantasy. It never turns out like the "dream" you're thinking of. Most likely she won't have the same ideals as you do. She won't have the same goals, or perhaps won't even feel as strongly about you as you do for her.

What about your family & friends? Do you think they're going to approve, or don't you care? Are looks and sex THAT important to you? Looks and sex don't last forever, you know.

Personally, I think you should hang onto your 5 yr relationship. Just that's just MY opinion. Afterall, she's stood by you thru all kinds of ups & downs. But -- it's your life. Best of luck. Lee

[Karlam1991]

Hmmm more likely you may want to talk to your gf it isn't fair that your talking and thinking of someone else while your kissing, hugging her etc.
Because that's called cheating...
Put yourself in her position, wouldn't you like her to be honest with you.
Hiding things is also lying.
Just be careful dont hurt your gfs feelings
She sounds like a very nice person.
Think about it.
Good luck!!

[Confusedinomicon]

You sound like you're bored and need a change.

A new person who is similar to your current gf would make a good change? Right?

I would talk to your gf about doing something to change things up and make it more exciting or make a clean break.