Concerned Parent

Hello All-

My daughter is seeing a great guy who's kind and loves her very much. We are all quit smitten with him. So what's the deal? During an argument between he and my daughter he had said that he didn't trust her. She was so tired of his insecurities that she asked him to leave and ended the relationship. He didn't leave but instead he swung his right arm up and hit himself in the stomach as if he had stabbed himself. My daughter thought that he had just stabbed himself she screamed, ran after him and began to histericaly cry. I ran out of my room when I heard her cry and asked her what had happened. She was in a state of panic and said she thought he had stabbed himself. She hugged me so tight crying that night. I ran to get my husband who was lying down on our bed to help sort out the problem. In the meantime my daughter checked up on the boyfriend and he said he was just kidding. I'm so upset over his behaviour, no, I'm angry.

I found his behaviour very disturbing and I'm having a hard time getting over this I just can't find the words why I found it disturbing and I'm asking for your analysis of his behaviour and what I may be feeling about it.

Thank you all for your help...
Whiteroses40

hey , well by reading this if i was a parent and that was a kid i knew -
I would be concerned as well .
I would talk to his parents and inform his parent(s) about this behavior .
I can't really label it either other than it is inappropriate and
totally bad choice in "humor "
Maybe his parent(s) have a better idea as to why he would do such a thing .
a kid being that over dramatic with their response to something like a break up
is eye opening and certainly not right .
I would keep an eye on it and
Id i were the mom I wouldn't want my daughter to hang around someone who chooses to joke about things such as that.
how ever i understand that people cant force their kids to hang with certain people
good luck

If we're talking about teenagers here, I wouldn't get so overwrought about it. These kids are apt to do just about anything to get attention. I've brought up a son and a daughter, and also a granddaughter -- and believe me, anything can happen!

Is it weird? Yes. But is it something to talk to his parents about? NO. I certainly would NOT talk to his parents about this. They'd think YOU were nuts. Afterall, he did NOT stab himself. He just played a joke on your daughter. Yes, it was in poor taste and it scared her, but it was just a joke. I would think she'd know him well enough to know that he wouldn't do something like that. And where was he hiding the knife?

Anyway -- let it go. Like I said, teenagers are apt to do anything to get attention. He didn't want her to end the relationship, so he got her to run to his side to make sure he wasn't dying. Not a good way to do it -- but he did it.

I hope they made up and everything is ok. God bless & please take care. Hugs, Lee

He's 26 years old and I called his mother. She enlightened me of his past and current mental health condition. He has ADHD which explains what he did. A symptom of his ADHD is impulsivity. It now all adds up. Thank you all for your help. Huggs to all of you

Whiteroses40

Doesn't really seem like your daughter was too smitten with him. She ended the relationship due to other concerns, so sounds like he is out of her (and your) life. Better luck with the next guy!