Being ignored after sex..

I'm definitely not going to tell my parents. It's not only the fact that I had sex that I don't want to tell them about, but also the who, where, and when. I don't think they'd be interested in reporting him for statutory even though the age of consent is 18. I'm almost positive that they wouldn't because they didn't want to report when I was actually raped as a child, so it would be messed up for them to do it now when I was actually okay with it. Different story. On one hand, they know the guy pretty well, but I can't deal with them knowing. Not now.

The earliest I might see him is in three months. MAYBE. It could be a lot more. The last time I saw him before this time was early June. I normally see him about once or twice a year, but I might go to his college or a one close to it. I get really nervous about phone calls and never make them. But maybe he wants me to call him - it would probably seem more respectful? I think I'll talk to him soon, but I just over worry and over think things. Hope I come off the right way. I feel like if I reach out twice and he still ignores me, I should get over it. So I want to say the right thing this time.

I am sorry to hear that Wend. No one deserves to have that happen to them, and I am sorry your parents never reported it...you deserve justice.

I figured a lot of the reason for not saying anything would be statutory concerns. I do maintain they could be of help, for sure, but I do understand your perspective. I ultimately defer to your judgment in the matter.

I think if they lacked judgment to report the rape of OP as a child, she should not trust their judgment on this matter. Unless it was some special case. But, usually, you base trust on past actions.

I think he feels as guilty as you. Maybe even a little ashamed of not being able to control himself. A lot of men tend to walk away from conversations that make them feel uncomfortable they deal with things differently ...they hope problems will just go away. Give him space ....with time it wont seem so bad and you will both just accept it was a mistake, but you both learnt a lot from it. Telling your parents? ..... I wouldnt some things in life we just need to figure out for ourselves thats part of growing up and becoming responsible adults.

He did eventually respond... But he texted me in the middle of the night, so I didn't respond then. We kind of exchanged messages later, but he was busy then, and I didn't feel like bothering him, so I kind of dropped it. I do think that this is maybe a thing that will just be accepted and somewhat forgotten over time. I'm glad I wasn't completely ignored, and I want to continue to talk to him, but on the other hand, I find myself more annoyed with him and everything, (why would you finally text me with two words at 3am?) and I'm kind of just over that. But I got part of what I wanted, so that's cool.